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, ' ' , 007 , , ) - . . . . - . . . - . , , , . . . ? . -eye contact . ? ? ? . . . . . , . . - . . .

5. . - , ? ? ? ( , ) ? ( ), . 100 .

6. , , , - - . . Anthony Robbins( -Tony Robbins), Napoleon Hill( ), Brian Tracy( ), David DeAngelo( ) ( self-esteem ),

, . , , , , mp3 .

7. . . 20 55 , 35 . ? 30 10 . ? . . .

8. . . ? , ? . . . , , . , 4 , . ( , ) ? . , . ? .

( ) . , ' ' '' . . . , . . , , . , . . .

. . 1. rapport( ?) build . ( ) , , . 2 . - 'you can't touch

me' - 'you're not good enough for me' .

2. ? . . space ' ' . . , ... .

3. ? . closed body language . . . . , , CEO

' ' .

? dominance .

4. - . .

. 'sexual threat' . ?

- ( staple ) . '' , . I have all the answers you need. .

5. . . . ( ) , , alexander technique . . slouch( ) . D , , .

6. . . . , - . , . , . ( ) , . ( . )

7. . . . . - , - '?' '?'

. . ? ? . . .

8. . , , , . . ' loser' . . cool calm .

9. , ' ' ' ' ? 4 , .

. . . . . , ( , , , , ) , , . , . 1:1 + 93, 7 . , 90 . .

[] . , . . . .

, , '' . , '' . ?

/ . , . tribal leader ,

. / . . .

, . . () tribal leader , tribal leader . , 20 10 ? 10 .

. , tribal leader . . .

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. , . . ,

, . . , . . , , .

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4. ? ----> 10 , . . ,

. ( ) , . ,

feel . threesome .

5. ? ----> , . , . , -_-;;; .

. , ? exbitionist. , . , . .

6. ? -----> , tribal leader . , tribal leader / , . , 70-80 . 30 , . 0.7: 1 15-24 , .

! . . ' ' ' ' super , '' .

, ? . . .

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. " " . . Social intelligence , social intelligence "" , .

, "", "" . . "" ( ..) .

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3. . , " , " "" . . ( , ) . , . ( ) rapport . , . " . ..." . , TV , tonality, . .

4. . . . (, 10 ) , . . , , . , . . . , , . ( ) , . rapport .

5. . desperate , ~ . The hungry don't get fed , . , , 5 " " . , " , " .

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, . . , , .

. , . , . . , . (tip: , . . , , )

, . , . , .

( , '' . )

, inner game outer game . outer game . , , outer game .

inner game . RSD tyler durden , sarging( ) . , . . , sarging . , , . . (awareness is half the battle )

, ( ) . . " " , , " " , (you've got what you deserve)

'' , , ( !) . , , .

. , , energy . " " , better game plan . , . , . . .

[] 1 ? ? ? ? ... , ' ' . .. .

Do not qualify yourself. ( , )

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. .

[] 2 1 -_- ' ' . . .

Engage her emotions, not logic.

. " xx" " xx ( ) ' ' . attraction .

, . ? / . ? . , , , , , .

" ?" . " ." "" . " . ( ) . . . ( ) ?" '' NLP , .

,

, , . ( NLP)

"xx ?" . . " xx " " ...? 2 .."

, , , . .

[] 3 Draw your boundary.(=Be decisive) , . ' ?' ' ?' . . " , ?" . " 2 " . " " . .

. " ?" ? , " , ?" . .." " ", " , . " ? 30 ?" , . .

. " , ?" , ? . "" " ?" " , " . " ?" , "?....... " , .

. quality . . . ( , , . . ~)

[] approval-seeking . DO NOT SEEK OTHERS' APPROVAL! . .

1. , . 2. . . ? APPROVAL SEEKING.

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1,2,3 . , . , . ' ?' . / . ? . , , ' ? ?' .

. ( ... ) .

, . high energy . ' ' . . . . . .

. . , . ? , ? . ' ' .

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p.s. . " . " . " , ! " , , xxx( ) ^_^ " . " ? " . . "

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a) . b) , , . c) . d) , ( ) 3 . a b , a) , .( ) b) "

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: . !!

2. flirt, flirt, flirt() -> . flirtation . . " ~" ", ?" . ? " " "... .... .... 10 ?" " .

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5> . 1. ( 2. 3. . The game , " " "" . , , , . . ""

. 1. (the art of seduction) - (Robert Greene) 2. - ( ) 3. - 4. Rules of the game( ? ) - 5.

4 (!!!) .

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. , " ? , ?" . , . .

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- - , , ( ?) - - - ( ) - , /( ) - - ( ) - , ( ) - ( )

. , , , , , 20 . .

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, , . " , ?" . , . , , . ? . , , , .

. ioi(indicators of interest) false ioi ( ) , .

, ioi "ok, " go-ahead action , reaction . , , , " , " . ( ok )

. , , ->, , -> ->-> .

"~" a) (95% ...) b) , a) , b) , . .

: .

7> Positive Mind. Social Proof. 1. " , ?" . ? . , , , . , . , 100% , , . , , , , , (, ...) . , .

2. stay on the positive , . " ?" , " .. ..." . 3 , . " xxx . xxxx . xxx , xxx . xxx , .... , , . . + . ?" +

3. social proof , . , . , ? . social proof .

. " ?" , .

: " " " ..." .

4. - - . . - " ?" " ?" " ?" . . " ?" " .." . - , . , . , . " ? ..? ?" . , , . .

5. Always end on a high note - . , . ? . . . . ? . ( ..) , , , . " , " " , 1 , , " , . .

8> Congruency. . . . .

1. congruency -> , ? ? , ... . , ... . ? , " .." . . . , , " ? . " . , ? ".." . , /// . . , . ( )

2. . -> . David DeAngelo cocky+funny .

/ . Juggler . . , , . Hypnotica , , , . , , . ? . ,

. . , , .

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9> . , 5 . 20 " ..?" .

, . , 3 .

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-_-;)

10> Approval-Seeking. Neg , . . , , , . , , . ( , . )

2 . , ~ , " , . ..." . . , .

supplication approval-seeking . .

1. You can never be a woman's girlfriend. ( .) -> supplicate, pander, pamper, approval-seeking . " , " . , , , . , " ,

~" . , , " " (!!) . , . .

2. - Don't be a shoulder to cry on ( ) -> , . . " " " " , " " . , . " " . , .

, " .." . . , , .

3. - Neg -> neg , neg . , insecure . neg , . , , . , " ?" ", ?" supplication, . neg . ".." , , "" "

. .." ".. ..." .

11> . . , . , . ( . , , ...)

, neg , neg . , .

1. ? -> , NO!! " ?" , . " , " , , . , ~ " " . , , , ? . , , " " , .

,

, ', , ' " " . , , . .

, , .

, . " " . , .

2. ? -> . , , , . , , , , , , , , , " ?" " ?" shit test . , . , . , . ( ) .

3. - ? -> , . . ? 2 . a) b) a) ,

, . a) .

() . " . () . ." , .

, . !!! " " , " ?" . ( 8 5 ), .

. 3 , . PUA 3-3-3 , 3 , 3 , 3 .

, 3 . ". ? ?" . "...?" " ? ..." "~" . " . ? , 5 .." , "" . ( )

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...... . , , . 5, 10 10 .

11 . " ?" " ?" " ..?" " ?" . " " , . . " ."

. "If you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting." -> " , " , ,

, , . ?

, , , . " ?" . . , " ..." . , . . . "transition vulnerability" . , , .

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. , . , . , , " " , " " .

.

" ..." . , , " .." . " " , , . .

2. - -> , . , ? . , . , . , ' ' , . ( social-proof, )

, " " . "" , " ? 30 " " , ?" . , . , 1 , .

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a) (, , , , , ) . , , , . , , , ( -_-;;;;;; ) . ,

. ( 2 )

a) , , ( ) . b) , , . " " . " " , " / , " . , .

/ , . , , push-pull . b) c) , " . " , , "..? , ..? ?" . .

push-pull . , " ?" . , "~ " , . ", , . .."( ) " , ? ...( , )"( , ) , " , , . ? () ,

?() ? .. , ( c) )"

. , . ", xxx . . , fffff. , . " , , ( ) . "? " , . .

, c) " ?" " ?" , , . push-pull , , .

d) . a) , , b) -> -> . . (eye contact )

" " " " " " " " , + .

. . ( , . .)

14> , , . , " " performance .

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' ' , , '' .

, , , . ( -_;;;) ' 2 ' , , '' . ( )

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1. . -> . , , . , . - 15 2/3 , . , 2-3 . / ? . , .

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- , . ( ) - - ( ...) - ( . . , . ...)

: . " " .

15> . . , . , . 3 . 2 5 , " , " .

s , , ' ' " " . , ~ , . , () + , '' .

, " ?" , 5:5 . - " ?" , ( ) . , .

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. 2 . , . , . , .

. " , ." , . , , . , , . ( ..)

2. Break out of your comfort zone - ->

? , , . , .

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1) 2 3 . . . "" , . (- . , ...) .

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16> . Shit Test .

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35520&k_type=0100&keyword=%EB%B8%8C%EB%9D%BC%EB%81%84 50 . , , confidence . 50 . " " . confidence

.

, , " ,

" . .. .

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. , . , , , . , , " " . , .

3. shit test -> . , , . , shit test , . " " . , ", " ,

.

, shit test (outwit ) . " ?" " ?" a) ~ 3 ", " b)".... .. " . "I love you" "I know" , .

17> Approval-Seeking. . '' . .

, , . frame () . .

, . " , " . , '' ' alpha male' '' . (self-image) , self-image , .

1.

-> A . . " . ?" ",

. , , , , , / ?" , ? , 10 20 ?

, . , " ? , () !!!!" . , . (, . , )

2. approval-seeking -> approval , , . ,

, , . "" , , .

, ? ? ? , " ..." . " " , " " , .

, . , . , , " ? " ? . . " ?" " ?" , , " " . (, ..)

3. -> , ( 13 , ) . future

projection role-playing, .

future projection , , NLP. , " 30 ?(: ? ...) . . " " . . , . . , . ?(: ) , . , .(: ) .

. , , ? .(: ) , . , (: ?!?!) , 5 . ..."

role-playing . . " ? ( : ? .. . ) ( ) . . ? . . ( : ?) . . . , , 5 . , . ?" , ", ?" . role-playing , .

4. - , -> (kino) . a) . . b) . . c) . . , . d)kino .

, . e) !!! , . ,

kino . 2 , 1 . kino , " " . -> 3 . f) !! . . . . , . .

, . , .

18> . . . , .

, reality show 'The Apprentice' . a) (social dynamics) b) high status behavior( ) . . , . / Low status( ) , .

1 7 () , KISS 1000 , ladies' man

. ( ) . , 3 " " . non-verbal . ...

- . , . , . . - . , , '' . - . , ( ..) , .

: alpha male , , ( ..) , .

1. - The importance of Presence -> , (presence). , . '' . '' .

, . (perception) , (entitlement) . , 10

, , ..... (I'm entitled to be treated with respect!!) , , .

/ . , self-image . , .

a) , , . b) " , "(It's always better to be strong and wrong rather than weak and right) , . , , , . c) , approval-seeking . . , .

2. , . -> . " xxx. ?" " xxxx , ?" . , . , ? , . , , , . , " ?" ?

. . , , , , , , . , , . , , .

: .

3. : It's ok to be a man -> . , . . , . ,

( ) : " , ? ..!" : ( 3 )" ? . " : " ? " : . . : , ?" : , '' ..( ) ..(: ? ) ...

, . "~" shit test " ?" , " " , 20 . " .." , ", "

, . () , .

19> . Provider & Lover " " . , . , '' , . ( , )

, . , ? , . , , , , , ... . , .

, ? 1 , "~" , " 100 " . , "

" , . ( , // ...)

1.

-> , '' . , . ( ), ( ), , . . ( ) , .

, . 2 , 3 . 3 , 1( . ) . , . 2 . . 2 . . 10? . . ( 4, )

" ?"( . ) ", . . ...( ) , .." "? . . ~ ~"( frame ) " . ~ ?" ()" ." ", .... ? . "( 2 ) : . ( 3 ) : ,

? .. . . ? : ( ~~~)

, " " . ~ ~ " ~" . , " " , ( ) , .

: ,

2. provider lover -> . , () , , " " , . ( 1/5~1/6 .)

( , ) , " " provider() . provider 20 , .

, ,

provider . , lover alpha male() . , . , provider , lover .

3. - , . http://youtube.com/watch?v=5paObBEW0dg&feature=related http://youtube.com/watch?v=FHZxwut3lxE (5 20

. .) http://youtube.com/watch?v=-quMo2nOQYg (the game Mystery ) http://myspace.com/neilstrauss (the game . Mission1,2,3,4,5,6 , 2 1 , neil strauss . 3 , () , -_;;;;)

20> . . , non-verbal( ) . , . 20 , ( pride ) .

3 A .

2 . , S , . .

xx , S , . , .... . , . " , 9 . . . 9 , 5 9 . ? , ." . " ?" . " ."

.... "" !!! , + . BMW . , , . , , " ..." , , ~

1. , Don't try to pick her up, just have a good time.

-> , . , . '' " ?" " ." ".. ?" " .."

. , approval-seeking ( ) .

. . .. . , . . "" , non-verbal , . , . Just enjoy yourself and have a good time. Get the notion of "picking her up" out of your mind.

2. .

->The Game . "The best way to get someone interested is not to be afraid of losing her." ( ) , . " ?" " .." , ... . " " . power , .

. " .." , , '== ' . . . . . . , . , .

3. - / ?

-> . 1-2 . , , . , 15 , . ? , .

, value ( , , , ) . Mystery ioi( , , ) 3 . a,b,c ,

a) . , , .( ) .

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e) d c , -- . , " " .

f) 2 , . , , .

g) . . , ", ..... . " " , " .( !) , . !! .

( ) , . , . , , . , .

3 "~" . . ~!

21> . . , . 'xx' , . , . 2 . .

. , , . . . , .

1. , . (Stop idealizing women, and stop idealizing relationships) -> . "? ?" . . . , , ... . .

, ,

. , , . , ' ' . , . , . , , .

2. . -> , . a) b) c) d)social-proof . " , ?" , " " social-proof . social-proof , 20 " " .( ...) , , .

3. - -_-;;; . .

, . , ~ . , ,

. , .(, , , 2 4- 5-

. . ...) ,

. 10 3 . ( , . , .)

, . 2-3 , .

. , 10 . 5 10 , . -_-;; .

0.1% . , " " . ( ) . (half-spanish

) , ! .

, . "you're so forward and brave. so I'll give you my number" ,

( ...)

, . , ? . .

22> . () . , , . . ! " today is the worst day of my life i think" ( ) "if that's true, then you must have led a really easy life."( , ) .

, , . , , , 22 2 (!!) . . ...

: . , 1 , . .

1. -> . , , ,

. , , , . " , ", .

, . .( . )

, . ~ . . , . (, ) . .

: . .

2. . . -> a) b) c) .

a) , , , , , . , ~ . ( ,

, , , , ~ ) , , . , .

b) , , , , . ( , . , )

c) . " , ? , . " . , . " . .. ? ?" . .

3. - gambits -> , . .

" ?

. , . ? , 4 . . ?"

eye axis and cues . " ? ? ? , , . ? . . . . , . ( --) , . , , // . , . . .

, . "

. -0- . --- . .

23> . ? . 3 , 5 , . .

1. Don't be needy, Don't be clingy -> needy clingy . . , . . , . " ?" " ?" , . . . " , . ?"

, . . needy cligy , . , '' . ' ' . , // .

. " ?" " , , ?"

" 10 , ?"

, . , . " " ,

. " " , .

2. scarcity mentality abundance mentality ->, . " ?" " ?" . . , . , . 3 " " , , .

" ?" . , " " 2 . 5 . , ( ) 3-4 , . 5 15 , . "

~" , . ( , .)

. " " , . , . . , , , , . " , ~" " ?" .

3. - -> . , . , .

.

a) . , . " ?" . .

b) , , . , ", xx " . , " xx . 20 . " . ( , . )

c) , " " . .

, , . " . (: ? ..) , . "

d) . " " " " , ' ' .

e) . .

f) , " " . " . 5 " . " ?" " . .." .

24> . . . " !" + . , ( "~ " ) . , , . ,

.

1. Be mysterious ->' ' . ' ' . , . , , . , ' ' . ' ' . . " . . . ! , . , !"

. , . ~ . ' ' . . ' ' . ~

' ' . ? . '' . ' ' . , .

, . , , . , . , . . .

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: ( , 20 )

smooth , . , . " ?" , . .

, " ?" ." " . , .

. , . , .

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. . , '' . "! " . . .

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,

'' . , ' ' ' ' .

. . , . , .

. , . .

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status .

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insecurity() overcompensate( ) .

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