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4. ( , ) - Allan pease the definitive book of bodylanguage . (' ' , ''
, ' ' , 007 , , ) - . . . . - . . . - . , , , . . . ? . -eye contact . ? ? ? . . . . . , . . - . . .
5. . - , ? ? ? ( , ) ? ( ), . 100 .
6. , , , - - . . Anthony Robbins( -Tony Robbins), Napoleon Hill( ), Brian Tracy( ), David DeAngelo( ) ( self-esteem ),
, . , , , , mp3 .
7. . . 20 55 , 35 . ? 30 10 . ? . . .
8. . . ? , ? . . . , , . , 4 , . ( , ) ? . , . ? .
( ) . , ' ' '' . . . , . . , , . , . . .
. . 1. rapport( ?) build . ( ) , , . 2 . - 'you can't touch
me' - 'you're not good enough for me' .
2. ? . . space ' ' . . , ... .
3. ? . closed body language . . . . , , CEO
' ' .
? dominance .
4. - . .
. 'sexual threat' . ?
- ( staple ) . '' , . I have all the answers you need. .
5. . . . ( ) , , alexander technique . . slouch( ) . D , , .
6. . . . , - . , . , . ( ) , . ( . )
7. . . . . - , - '?' '?'
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8. . , , , . . ' loser' . . cool calm .
9. , ' ' ' ' ? 4 , .
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feel . threesome .
5. ? ----> , . , . , -_-;;; .
. , ? exbitionist. , . , . .
6. ? -----> , tribal leader . , tribal leader / , . , 70-80 . 30 , . 0.7: 1 15-24 , .
! . . ' ' ' ' super , '' .
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, flex your social muscle! , 1:1 . 4 x , ' ..' .. . , . 200 2 , . .
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x " " . TV TV , . ( ) / . , .
. " " . . Social intelligence , social intelligence "" , .
, "", "" . . "" ( ..) .
1. . . , . . . , .
2. role-model . , . , , , .... . , '' .
3. . , " , " "" . . ( , ) . , . ( ) rapport . , . " . ..." . , TV , tonality, . .
4. . . . (, 10 ) , . . , , . , . . . , , . ( ) , . rapport .
5. . desperate , ~ . The hungry don't get fed , . , , 5 " " . , " , " .
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. , . , . . , . (tip: , . . , , )
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, inner game outer game . outer game . , , outer game .
inner game . RSD tyler durden , sarging( ) . , . . , sarging . , , . . (awareness is half the battle )
, ( ) . . " " , , " " , (you've got what you deserve)
'' , , ( !) . , , .
. , , energy . " " , better game plan . , . , . . .
[] 1 ? ? ? ? ... , ' ' . .. .
Do not qualify yourself. ( , )
" ?" " ?" " ?" ? . "" "2 5" "" , . . . . ? . ( ) " ?" ---> "." (, ) " ?" " ?" ---> ". . ...( ...)" " . ..... ?" " ?" ---> " . ."
. " ? , ?" . " ?"( ) . ?' . , , , ( ) ',
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[] 2 1 -_- ' ' . . .
Engage her emotions, not logic.
. " xx" " xx ( ) ' ' . attraction .
, . ? / . ? . , , , , , .
" ?" . " ." "" . " . ( ) . . . ( ) ?" '' NLP , .
,
, , . ( NLP)
"xx ?" . . " xx " " ...? 2 .."
, , , . .
[] 3 Draw your boundary.(=Be decisive) , . ' ?' ' ?' . . " , ?" . " 2 " . " " . .
. " ?" ? , " , ?" . .." " ", " , . " ? 30 ?" , . .
. " , ?" , ? . "" " ?" " , " . " ?" , "?....... " , .
. quality . . . ( , , . . ~)
[] approval-seeking . DO NOT SEEK OTHERS' APPROVAL! . .
1. , . 2. . . ? APPROVAL SEEKING.
' , . ? '' . . ? ? ... .. . . ? ? .................................
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/ /. . //// . 10km / . ? ? , . . .
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, eject.
1,2,3 . , . , . ' ?' . / . ? . , , ' ? ?' .
. ( ... ) .
, . high energy . ' ' . . . . . .
. . , . ? , ? . ' ' .
4.5 . , " . xx . xx ? , xx 2 xx 2 xx 3 xx . fff ?" . , , . .
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2. . -> , , . , / . , ( ) . ( -_- ) . s , ( ) .
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2> & . Shit Test " .... " , ! . + ? .
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2. ? -> / . , . / 10 . , . , . , , . . , , . , . .
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3. shit test -> . , . , . . , " ?", " 6 ?", " ?" , . , "" " .." . . + . " ?" " ? ? 50 ? ... " " .." . " ?" "? , ? .. .." .
: . + . .
p.s. . " . " . " , ! " , , xxx( ) ^_^ " . " ? " . . "
3> . " !" , . ...
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2. + -> . , " /// , , , " . , , , , . , . . , " , . . ...!" . , . ,
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3. . -> , " " . . , , " !" .
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...) , ? . . .
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a) . b) , , . c) . d) , ( ) 3 . a b , a) , .( ) b) "
" . . " ?" " ?" ( ) ", .(3 ) ?" " . ?" . . , ~
: . !!
2. flirt, flirt, flirt() -> . flirtation . . " ~" ", ?" . ? " " "... .... .... 10 ?" " .
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3. -> " ,, , ? ?" . " "( ) ".. , ? . ..."( ) ! " .." . " " " . . / " . , . , " // ?" "" " . ." . ", ?" " , . ? " . " .
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5> . 1. ( 2. 3. . The game , " " "" . , , , . . ""
. 1. (the art of seduction) - (Robert Greene) 2. - ( ) 3. - 4. Rules of the game( ? ) - 5.
4 (!!!) .
1. . -> , , , , , , . ,
. , " ? , ?" . , . .
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2. -> , 1 , . ( ) , , , .() 2 , , . ( ) , . , mirroring , , .
3. ? -> 60-80% " " . - , - , , , ,
- - , , ( ?) - - - ( ) - , /( ) - - ( ) - , ( ) - ( )
. , , , , , 20 . .
6> 2 . , .
, , . " , ?" . , . , , . ? . , , , .
. ioi(indicators of interest) false ioi ( ) , .
, ioi "ok, " go-ahead action , reaction . , , , " , " . ( ok )
. , , ->, , -> ->-> .
"~" a) (95% ...) b) , a) , b) , . .
: .
7> Positive Mind. Social Proof. 1. " , ?" . ? . , , , . , . , 100% , , . , , , , , (, ...) . , .
2. stay on the positive , . " ?" , " .. ..." . 3 , . " xxx . xxxx . xxx , xxx . xxx , .... , , . . + . ?" +
3. social proof , . , . , ? . social proof .
. " ?" , .
: " " " ..." .
4. - - . . - " ?" " ?" " ?" . . " ?" " .." . - , . , . , . " ? ..? ?" . , , . .
5. Always end on a high note - . , . ? . . . . ? . ( ..) , , , . " , " " , 1 , , " , . .
8> Congruency. . . . .
1. congruency -> , ? ? , ... . , ... . ? , " .." . . . , , " ? . " . , ? ".." . , /// . . , . ( )
2. . -> . David DeAngelo cocky+funny .
/ . Juggler . . , , . Hypnotica , , , . , , . ? . ,
. . , , .
3. - -> labling( // ) . " " , . " ..." , . , , . . labling . , . " ? ." " , ?" . ( 100%..) , , , . , " ?" , " ? ?" . , . .
9> . , 5 . 20 " ..?" .
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1. ? -> . . , , . , , . , , . , , .
. " ?" ", ... ?" " ..." " " , " ( ), " . , . , " " " " " ?" , .
, / // , , . , "xxx " "YYY " . , "xxx " . , /// / .
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2. . -> . , , , // . , , , .
, ? . , . , . , . A, B A , 3 A B .
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, . , "" + "" . , . , , / + + . . ( ...
-_-;)
10> Approval-Seeking. Neg , . . , , , . , , . ( , . )
2 . , ~ , " , . ..." . . , .
supplication approval-seeking . .
1. You can never be a woman's girlfriend. ( .) -> supplicate, pander, pamper, approval-seeking . " , " . , , , . , " ,
~" . , , " " (!!) . , . .
2. - Don't be a shoulder to cry on ( ) -> , . . " " " " , " " . , . " " . , .
, " .." . . , , .
3. - Neg -> neg , neg . , insecure . neg , . , , . , " ?" ", ?" supplication, . neg . ".." , , "" "
. .." ".. ..." .
11> . . , . , . ( . , , ...)
, neg , neg . , .
1. ? -> , NO!! " ?" , . " , " , , . , ~ " " . , , , ? . , , " " , .
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2. ? -> . , , , . , , , , , , , , , " ?" " ?" shit test . , . , . , . ( ) .
3. - ? -> , . . ? 2 . a) b) a) ,
, . a) .
() . " . () . ." , .
, . !!! " " , " ?" . ( 8 5 ), .
. 3 , . PUA 3-3-3 , 3 , 3 , 3 .
, 3 . ". ? ?" . "...?" " ? ..." "~" . " . ? , 5 .." , "" . ( )
( ..) 1. 2. 3. ..(, ", , " ..) 4. . ? , 5 10 . !! . . ( )
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...... . , , . 5, 10 10 .
11 . " ?" " ?" " ..?" " ?" . " " , . . " ."
. "If you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting." -> " , " , ,
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, , , . " ?" . . , " ..." . , . . . "transition vulnerability" . , , .
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2. - -> , . , ? . , . , . , ' ' , . ( social-proof, )
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a) (, , , , , ) . , , , . , , , ( -_-;;;;;; ) . ,
. ( 2 )
a) , , ( ) . b) , , . " " . " " , " / , " . , .
/ , . , , push-pull . b) c) , " . " , , "..? , ..? ?" . .
push-pull . , " ?" . , "~ " , . ", , . .."( ) " , ? ...( , )"( , ) , " , , . ? () ,
?() ? .. , ( c) )"
. , . ", xxx . . , fffff. , . " , , ( ) . "? " , . .
, c) " ?" " ?" , , . push-pull , , .
d) . a) , , b) -> -> . . (eye contact )
" " " " " " " " , + .
. . ( , . .)
14> , , . , " " performance .
" ?" " ?" . , , . . ,
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- , . ( ) - - ( ...) - ( . . , . ...)
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s , , ' ' " " . , ~ , . , () + , '' .
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2. Break out of your comfort zone - ->
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1) 2 3 . . . "" , . (- . , ...) .
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16> . Shit Test .
1. (confidence) -> http://gall.dcinside.com/list.php?id=starcraft_vod&no=38554&page=1&search_pos=-
35520&k_type=0100&keyword=%EB%B8%8C%EB%9D%BC%EB%81%84 50 . , , confidence . 50 . " " . confidence
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3. shit test -> . , , . , shit test , . " " . , ", " ,
.
, shit test (outwit ) . " ?" " ?" a) ~ 3 ", " b)".... .. " . "I love you" "I know" , .
17> Approval-Seeking. . '' . .
, , . frame () . .
, . " , " . , '' ' alpha male' '' . (self-image) , self-image , .
1.
-> A . . " . ?" ",
. , , , , , / ?" , ? , 10 20 ?
, . , " ? , () !!!!" . , . (, . , )
2. approval-seeking -> approval , , . ,
, , . "" , , .
, ? ? ? , " ..." . " " , " " , .
, . , . , , " ? " ? . . " ?" " ?" , , " " . (, ..)
3. -> , ( 13 , ) . future
projection role-playing, .
future projection , , NLP. , " 30 ?(: ? ...) . . " " . . , . . , . ?(: ) , . , .(: ) .
. , , ? .(: ) , . , (: ?!?!) , 5 . ..."
role-playing . . " ? ( : ? .. . ) ( ) . . ? . . ( : ?) . . . , , 5 . , . ?" , ", ?" . role-playing , .
4. - , -> (kino) . a) . . b) . . c) . . , . d)kino .
, . e) !!! , . ,
kino . 2 , 1 . kino , " " . -> 3 . f) !! . . . . , . .
, . , .
18> . . . , .
, reality show 'The Apprentice' . a) (social dynamics) b) high status behavior( ) . . , . / Low status( ) , .
1 7 () , KISS 1000 , ladies' man
. ( ) . , 3 " " . non-verbal . ...
- . , . , . . - . , , '' . - . , ( ..) , .
: alpha male , , ( ..) , .
1. - The importance of Presence -> , (presence). , . '' . '' .
, . (perception) , (entitlement) . , 10
, , ..... (I'm entitled to be treated with respect!!) , , .
/ . , self-image . , .
a) , , . b) " , "(It's always better to be strong and wrong rather than weak and right) , . , , , . c) , approval-seeking . . , .
2. , . -> . " xxx. ?" " xxxx , ?" . , . , ? , . , , , . , " ?" ?
. . , , , , , , . , , . , , .
: .
3. : It's ok to be a man -> . , . . , . ,
( ) : " , ? ..!" : ( 3 )" ? . " : " ? " : . . : , ?" : , '' ..( ) ..(: ? ) ...
, . "~" shit test " ?" , " " , 20 . " .." , ", "
, . () , .
19> . Provider & Lover " " . , . , '' , . ( , )
, . , ? , . , , , , , ... . , .
, ? 1 , "~" , " 100 " . , "
" , . ( , // ...)
1.
-> , '' . , . ( ), ( ), , . . ( ) , .
, . 2 , 3 . 3 , 1( . ) . , . 2 . . 2 . . 10? . . ( 4, )
" ?"( . ) ", . . ...( ) , .." "? . . ~ ~"( frame ) " . ~ ?" ()" ." ", .... ? . "( 2 ) : . ( 3 ) : ,
? .. . . ? : ( ~~~)
, " " . ~ ~ " ~" . , " " , ( ) , .
: ,
2. provider lover -> . , () , , " " , . ( 1/5~1/6 .)
( , ) , " " provider() . provider 20 , .
, ,
provider . , lover alpha male() . , . , provider , lover .
3. - , . http://youtube.com/watch?v=5paObBEW0dg&feature=related http://youtube.com/watch?v=FHZxwut3lxE (5 20
. .) http://youtube.com/watch?v=-quMo2nOQYg (the game Mystery ) http://myspace.com/neilstrauss (the game . Mission1,2,3,4,5,6 , 2 1 , neil strauss . 3 , () , -_;;;;)
20> . . , non-verbal( ) . , . 20 , ( pride ) .
3 A .
2 . , S , . .
xx , S , . , .... . , . " , 9 . . . 9 , 5 9 . ? , ." . " ?" . " ."
.... "" !!! , + . BMW . , , . , , " ..." , , ~
1. , Don't try to pick her up, just have a good time.
-> , . , . '' " ?" " ." ".. ?" " .."
. , approval-seeking ( ) .
. . .. . , . . "" , non-verbal , . , . Just enjoy yourself and have a good time. Get the notion of "picking her up" out of your mind.
2. .
->The Game . "The best way to get someone interested is not to be afraid of losing her." ( ) , . " ?" " .." , ... . " " . power , .
. " .." , , '== ' . . . . . . , . , .
3. - / ?
-> . 1-2 . , , . , 15 , . ? , .
, value ( , , , ) . Mystery ioi( , , ) 3 . a,b,c ,
a) . , , .( ) .
b) , . ( , ..." ), " , /xx. " , "?" ", , ... . " . .
c)ioi3 . , . , , .( ... ) , "~ " ... .
d) , . ", ? " . , (, ) 3 .
e) d c , -- . , " " .
f) 2 , . , , .
g) . . , ", ..... . " " , " .( !) , . !! .
( ) , . , . , , . , .
3 "~" . . ~!
21> . . , . 'xx' , . , . 2 . .
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1. , . (Stop idealizing women, and stop idealizing relationships) -> . "? ?" . . . , , ... . .
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2. . -> , . a) b) c) d)social-proof . " , ?" , " " social-proof . social-proof , 20 " " .( ...) , , .
3. - -_-;;; . .
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, . 2-3 , .
. , 10 . 5 10 , . -_-;; .
0.1% . , " " . ( ) . (half-spanish
) , ! .
, . "you're so forward and brave. so I'll give you my number" ,
( ...)
, . , ? . .
22> . () . , , . . ! " today is the worst day of my life i think" ( ) "if that's true, then you must have led a really easy life."( , ) .
, , . , , , 22 2 (!!) . . ...
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b) , , , , . ( , . , )
c) . " , ? , . " . , . " . .. ? ?" . .
3. - gambits -> , . .
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eye axis and cues . " ? ? ? , , . ? . . . . , . ( --) , . , , // . , . . .
, . "
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23> . ? . 3 , 5 , . .
1. Don't be needy, Don't be clingy -> needy clingy . . , . . , . " ?" " ?" , . . . " , . ?"
, . . needy cligy , . , '' . ' ' . , // .
. " ?" " , , ?"
" 10 , ?"
, . , . " " ,
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2. scarcity mentality abundance mentality ->, . " ?" " ?" . . , . , . 3 " " , , .
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f) , " " . " . 5 " . " ?" " . .." .
24> . . . " !" + . , ( "~ " ) . , , . ,
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1. Be mysterious ->' ' . ' ' . , . , , . , ' ' . ' ' . . " . . . ! , . , !"
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2. -> " / ?" , . , , // . , ' ' .
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smooth , . , . " ?" , . .
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