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Finding Comfort A Testimony About Crossdressing.

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We are all on a journey discovering ourselves, for me that journey involved aperiod of cross-dressing and finding comfort in the deep love of God.

When did it start? I recall painting my face with water colour paints and

answering the back door to my best friend, I must have been around 8 I think.He said nothing he probably didnt notice. I remember a scout pageant ofknights of old, and what we wore looked like a dress I wore it again at homeand it felt more like one. Then there were years of wearing clothing from mymothers store of clothes she wore when she was young, and no longer wore,and clothes that people gave her.

I remember the years working out how to create a girls shape with many pairsof pants, and the padding of socks and stockings under suitableundergarments, back in the 60s they were boned and created to curve youquite effectively. Spending time creating,forming, making up and becoming agirl however briefly became an addiction for me. Only for me, only once Iventured out in the garden, but was never seen by others. I would activelyavoid being asked to dress as a girl in plays, but secretly thought I could do itbetter than those who did.

There was always a thrill in the risk of being found out, the frantic hiding in thetoilet if mother came home early and gradually sneaking the clothes back. Thepleasure when dressing up becoming linked to sexual feelings as adolescenceprogressed, reinforcing the desire and the satisfaction. What would it be like tobe a girl? My relationship with real girls were not at all successful. I was a boy

yet confused seeking comfort inside?

Why did it start? If you had been a girl we would have called you Helen,mother said. She had lost a daughter at the age of 4, my step sister, somehow I tried to replace that daughter in an effort to make mother love meand not physically punish me as she did. Dad was quiet and said littleespecially when in a sulk, when there had been a falling out between Mum andDad.

Mother said once can I ask you something personal I said no. Maybe she

knew? I hoped nobody knew! it was my inner secret my inner shame. Iremember in my teems worrying that if I had a drink I would reveal my secretit didnt happen. When I left for college at 18 the clothes were gone I
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never brought any of my own I used to borrow garments from the lodgingswhere I stayed always returning them undetected. The cross-dressing alwayshidden. I had this dream of being dressed up and travelling in my car havingchanged on the way I never had the courage to be seen and certainly notcome out in any way.

The desires to dress up diminished in my mid 20s and seemed to stop when Iformed a stable relationship with my now wife in my late 20s. I told her aboutmy past habit and when I started to seriously explore having an activeChristian faith I was introduced to the Christian Healing Ministry I told aChristian minister and for the find time felt that I had faced the fear with God.That seemed to be an important release that is not to say it was entirely theend of the thoughts at times I would take an avid interest in the underweardepartments of stores or catalogues and in the clothes put aside for jumblesales. But I resisted wearing womens clothing, only occasionally adapting mymale outfits in some way.

Through many years, Im in my late 50s now, there seemed to have been ashame deep inside that clouded my personality. Through many times ofChristian prayer ministry I have come now to accept that God accepts me anddoes not condemn me. When I have been aware of the deep love that Jesushas for me, I have been able release the pain that is inside. That pain ofunfulfilled love from my mother and my attempt to win love through a falsecreated self. I have seen how much the heavenly Father wants to show me theFather love which I did not demonstrably receive. I have come to know that Iam an adopted son my orphaned heart is being healed.

There are times when I forget the love and acceptance that is there when mymind tries to run an old tape the enemy wants me to feel worthless,outside hope, ashamed, and when you are involved in Christian Ministry as Iam, that is not a route that can be followed. So I try to turn my thoughts towhat is good and honourable and true. At some point the living God breaks inagain when I find Him, or rather He finds me, I feel restored, refound,knowing that only in Jesus am I completely free, as the hymn says, His Gracehas brought me safe thus far and grace will lead me home.

If you have a Christian faith you may know of the Fathers love if not I dopray that you will be helped to find it. I am still on a journey to find my trueself those early years made quite a mess. But thanks be to God who gives usthe victory. Knowing you are loved can bring you into a place of freedom andliving hope and remove the years of shame. May God bless you in yourjourney.

Richard

(Richard not his real name is a Christian minister in the UK)

Sams Story

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What I am about to tell you is unique. Why? It is because each one of us isdifferent. Different in the way we live, different in our loves, our habits, ourdesires. My story will not be the same as yours. You might find aspects of whatI tell you fascinating; there may be parts to which you can relate. Equally,parts of my story may bore you, and you will want to skip over them.Whatever your choice, I hope you can identify in something with me,

understand what made me tick, and how I overcame what was the deepestdepression, the highest hurdle, the widest gulf in my life. Interested?

I am almost 54. Fifty years ago, I can remember going into the large walk-incupboard under our stairs, in our old stone cottage in Wandsworth, and lookingthrough the rag box. This was where my mum and dad put all the old clothes.They had many uses. Some were for cleaning dads paintbrushes, and othersfor cleaning the motorbike and sidecar, and other household jobs. Mumsstockings were always used for filtering the paint, as in those days, paint waslumpy and had to be sieved before it could be used. I liked the rag box. There

were so many different things in there, and in the early nineteen fifties, as notmany toys were available, I used to dress up and play games. I was an onlychild, and life was lonely. Mum often worked up town, and my dad was alwaysout. I had to find things to amuse myself.

Something drew me closer to my mothers old clothes than my Dads. Dad wasa tough electrician. He was big, brawny and his clothes were the coarse type,suitable for his work. Mums were finer, softer and had just the right feel aboutthem. There was a long black slip, I used to wear around the house, and I canremember my mother telling me to take it off, as boys do not wear those

things. I obeyed, but there was something that made me want to go backagain and again, and put it on. I found myself dressing up in her clothes atevery available opportunity. I was told not to dress up any more, so I had toresort to secrecy. When my parents were out (they were out quite a lot), Iwould go to the rag box, and wear anything I could of my mothers. I loved toparade around the house, and just enjoyed every moment. I had no idea why Iwanted to do this; it was just the wonderful enjoyment of dressing up.

As the years went by, I progressed to going into their bedroom, and puttingher clothes on whenever I had the opportunity. I made sure my parents were

out, and checked that they had really gone (by looking out of the upstairswindow), I would experience a wonderful tingle all over my body and wasdrawn to her wardrobe and drawers. Everything was too big for me (althoughshe was tall, she was only about a size 12), and I treated myself to wearingjust about everything I could. It was my little secret, and I made sureeverything was folded neatly and back in place before they came home.

I loved the excitement. I hated the thought of being caught, but wanted tomake sure I could be dressed up until almost the last moment. There weremany times when I was almost caught, and my heart would almost fail,especially if I heard the key turn in the door downstairs and I was dressed up.On one occasion, I had to jump into bed fully clothed, as they quickly cameupstairs. The panic and fear were unbearable. What would my father say, if hecould see his son dressed as a girl? He was huge, with muscles to match, and


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would not understand. I didnt understand it myself, so I had no explanation tooffer him. Another close call was when my parents came home early one night,and my mother came into my room and sat on my bed. She asked me why Iwas looking in her drawers in her bedroom, and of course I denied it. She saidit was unhealthy, and must stop. She knew I had been there, because she isthe most fastidious of women, and all her underwear and clothes were laid out

perfectly, and so I must have put something back incorrectly. I made sure Iwas more careful in the following months.

As I grew into teenage years, the impulse never left me. I was even braveenough to tell a friend, and he wanted to see me dressed up. We arranged atime, and he came round to see me. The trouble with boys entering puberty isthat they become hairy, their voices deepen, and shaving becomes a necessity.I hated all these. I did not want to shave my hairy body, so I just left it hairy;the thrill of just wearing female clothes was reward enough. My friend cameround and we pretended to be boy and girlfriend, no kissing or anything like

that, just talking and sitting. I asked him if he would lie on top of me, and hedid, and that was all we did. That alone was enough to satisfy me.

I knew I was not homosexual, as I only liked boys when I was dressed as agirl. During school, I was one of the lads, and often in trouble. Eventually,some years later I was expelled during my Upper Sixth Year, and looking back,I think it was because I was oftenover the top to prove to everyone howmuch of a lad I was. Inside I knew differently. One of my fathers businesscolleagues had died of cancer, and before he died had asked my father to lookafter his shop. It was a big rambling place full of electronic bits and pieces and

millions of radio valves (remember this was the 60s), and I often used to gothere on my own to make sure the place was secure. I bought some clothes,mainly underwear, and some stilettos, and a dress, and I hid them in the shop.I longed for the times when I could go down on my push bike, and check theshop over for my father. I would dress up, and walk around, click clacking inmy heels, loving the sound. One day, on turning the corner into the main road,to visit the shop, I saw that the demolition men were in and had begun toknock the buildings down. I was totally crestfallen, my secret world was beingdemolished, and I felt like crying. I loved the clothes I had saved for andbought, they meant the world to me, and now they were gone forever, and I

had to start again. Where could I go to experience the freedom and thepleasure?

Over the following years, the deepening desire never left me. The subject, likehomosexuality was taboo, and never discussed. In the boys changing room,homos were ridiculed and despised and I joined in. Gangs of queer basherswere organised, and many of us used to crawl around the Common looking forthem, ready to do them great harm. This gained me acceptability. I evenjoined a Karate class, and took up weightlifting, I think, to help convinceothers, and also to convince me in some way, as I thought that I was a littlefreaky and unusual. It wasnt easy going out with my mates, and if we passeda dress shop or a womans clothes store, my eyes were drawn to the windows,and I wanted to linger and dream. It was a constant fight to keep my secretsafe. I liked girls, and wanted to be with them, but having been brought up a


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boy, and having no sisters, I was unsure what to say and do. Early dates werea bit of a disaster. I tried to be macho, but I guess my feminine side came outtoo much, and I was neither rough nor tough enough for my early girlfriends. Ipreferred to go out with my close mates, as I felt comfortable with them, and Idid not have to playact too much. One particular friend was always looking fordeeper mischief, and we got into a lot of trouble. We both had a liking for

practical jokes, and it was this that got me expelled. I was in the top twostreams at school, and my prospects were good. I wanted to go to University,and work for the British Museum as a palaeontologist (the study of fossils).However, one day I sent the whole of the second year to the Headmaster (120boys); he had had enough of my many pranks, and I was asked to leave. Ijoined a financial business in the city of London, and realised I was an adult. Icould no longer dress as a girl, but wanted to become a woman.

I lived at home, and could not keep any female clothes there, as my parentswould have gone berserk, and would not have understood. I used to buy things

and keep them in the car, or hide them in places only known to me. There wasnothing sexual about my cross-dressing. It was just a natural outcome, Ithought, of the real me. My mum had wanted a girl, but a boy was born. Shewanted to call me Samantha, so I became Sam. The doctor told her that Iwould be a girl, so she believed him, and knitted me pink clothes, and thenursery was pink. I think I was a disappointment to her, but she would neveradmit it. I often wonder if she willed me to be a girl. Does that make anydifference?

Time passed. I had met a wonderful girl, who liked my humour, and my good

looks (in those days!), and although I told her a little of my secret self, shethought it was a phase, and I would grow out of it. The continent of Asia, hadalways held a fascination for me, and I decided to go to South Korea. She wasdistraught, but my mind was made up. I left in Jan 1970, and flew to Seoul. Ihad not reckoned on the enormous weight of loneliness, although the freedomwas wonderful. I got a job in a Bank in town, and a nice flat. There was nostopping me acting out my secret life now. I could buy what I wanted anddress up whenever I could. I became braver and ventured out as far as Idared, and wandered around, mostly at night, and with a scarf over my head,as I did not have a wig. I made lots of friends at work, but kept my secret to

myself, and did not disclose it to anyone. I spent eighteen months in Korea anddecided I wanted to see the UK again, so I returned by boat, which took a longtime, and shared a cabin with three tough Australians, so I had no chance toput on my favourite clothes! These were very tough men, and I had to belikewise!

Back in the UK, I got a job, and settled down. I married the girl I had leftbehind, and my desires subsided for a while, although my mind was alwaysactive, and I thought almost entirely in the feminine, and when I dreamt it wasalways in a female role.

There were so many questions I kept asking myself. I realised I was notnormal, but then again, I knew that other people, male and female, musthave their own secrets and that most people had their own little fantasy


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worlds. With me, it was different, as I wanted to live out my fantasy. Each dayI was faced with coping with my internal emotions, the pull of feminine desires,whilst trying to live a stable life at home and at work. This constant battleinside was draining, however over the years, I simply coped with it. Anotherthing that was difficult for me was the fact that women were all around me, inthe train, in the street, in shops, everywhere. I would look at them, and be

critical or appreciative of the way they dressed.

Little things used to trigger me. Beautifully shaped nails, open toed shoes, withstockings/tights showing, colour co-ordination and beautiful hair. I hadtestosterone buzzing around my body, and I had started slowly losing my hair.When I saw women with beautiful hair, I was hurt and jealous at the sametime. It seemed so unfair. Women could look so lovely, so glamorous, and justenjoy being female, and I could not. It was no surprise to me that if I asked awoman if she would want to come-back as a woman or a man, almost all saidas a woman. Some said they would like to be a bloke for a day or two, but

preferred being female. With men, it was often 25% who said they would liketo try being female. I suspect there would be more, but the male stigma aboutanything feminine in their lives and minds would preclude them from sayingso. It was just so hard being surrounded by feminine things each and everyday, and all these signals homed in on me.

We had three lovely children. Two boys and a girl. The two boys I could copewith, teaching them soccer in the garden, playing games, and doing thingsthat boys enjoyed, adventure games, and getting dirty whenever possible. Iunderstood all this from my childhood. When our daughter was born, I

panicked, as I had little idea of how to bring a girl up, and what to do with her.My wife, as a nurse, was brilliant and taught me a lot. Our daughter was a joyto us, and I loved buying her dolls and treating her, although we tried not tospoil her as she was the first girl on my side of the family for many years! Iwas fearful that as she grew older and turned into woman hood, that I wouldnot cope seeing her grow into a beautiful person (and she is!), with my owndesires of wanting to be female inside me. I did not want to hurt anyone, andhoped, quietly, that my desires would fade away one day, as I grew older andhopefully wiser.

I had started my own business some time ago. It was international, and I hadthe opportunity to travel more. At first I simply enjoyed the travelling, andseeing new places and experiencing new sights and sounds. Then, when I was51, and my travelling overseas increased, I had a greater desire to dress up. Ihad resisted for a long time, and the battle was hard and lonely. Then one dayoverseas whilst walking along one of the market roads, I saw a lovely greenlocal dress. Before I knew what I was doing I had bought it. I rushed back tomy room and tried it on. It was like an avalanche had hit me, and I had to buyother feminine things. I went out and bought several other things, mainlyclothes and accessories. I stayed in my room for ages, dressed up and lookingat myself in the mirror. It was if my true self had come out at last. This wasme; I wanted to be like this all the time.

Over the next year, as I travelled more and more, I took a whole new wardrobe


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of clothes and accessories with me. I dressed up in my hotel rooms. I boughtspecial make up to hide my bluebeard from a TV shop in London, and I had anexpensive and beautiful wig. I loved selecting the make up, and spending timedeciding what to wear, and getting it all to match or co-ordinate. I would walkaround the hotels dressed up, and thought I would blend in. I did not get anyquizzical looks and that encouraged me. Back home I had started going to a

beauty salon and was waxed from top to toe, The salon therapists accepted it,as society had become very liberal in its thinking and gays and TVs wereopenly accepted into society, and they had rights all of a sudden. I even wentto the TV shop in London for make up lessons, and I would wear nice casualwomens clothes there. I went up on the train, and remember proudly showingoff my gold ankle bracelet. I had gone so far. So far, I could not go back, I wasmesmerised and easily convinced myself that I was really female, and lookedthe part. Acceptability in public places meant everything to me. I was trappedinside this awful body of mine, and the woman inside was screaming to getout. I ached.

My family had seen the change. My wife hated what I had become and what Iwas doing. I became more adventurous. I was in my own world, and thewoman inside controlled my life and my thinking. I wanted to go to TV/gayclubs to mix with others like me, so we could talk and understand each other. Ineeded like company. My family did not understand me; they could not realisethat the person within, was the real one, why couldnt they see that? Whydidnt they understand? It was so simple. The real me was about to emerge ina new role. I was planning to move out to a flat, where I could live out my newlife. They were holding me back, I even contacted someone on the web who

was a TV, and I needed this new type of company. Sympathy andunderstanding was needed. The break away from this male lifestyle was justwithin my grasp. Plans were laid, and I would soon be the real person I wasinside and hopefully also outside. I couldnt wait.

Before I tell you what happened next, I have to take you back to 1975. Wewere married in 1974, and I had lived overseas for 18 months from 1970.England was going through a difficult period and the 3-day week was on,miners and others were on strike, the unions held the country to ransom, andthings looked bleak. I persuaded my young bride to emigrate with me. I told

her all about the wonderful lifestyle, the sunshine and the utopianopportunities. We left the UK in 1975.

An old school friend and his wife met us, and they put us up. I had known himfor years at school, but we were not close. We got on like a house on firetogether now, and the four of us enjoyed each others company. Then things formy wife and me went wrong. We lost our savings in trying to buy a house. Ourjobs were not what we expected. My wife was pregnant with an unplannedchild. Disaster after disaster overtook us. We did not know what to do or howto cope. My friend had spoken before to me of Christian things, and I ridiculedhim. He tried to get us to his church, but I told him I wanted to improve ourlives not make them worse. As our lives tumbled, and we were cast very low,he asked us again to go to his church and very reluctantly, we agreed to go.His church was one of the first in Africa where blacks, coloured, and white folk


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could meet and mix. Usually they were segregated. The preacher spoke of aloving Saviour, someone who could help in the direst of circumstances, a friendforever. Someone who could forgive all the things we had done wrong andchange us. It was if he was speaking just to me. I wondered if he had beenplanted, just to talk to me. But, as the weeks went by, I became fascinated,and wanted to hear more. Yes, I needed some relief from my present

circumstances, but this man was talking about now and eternity. What was onoffer from the Bible and this man Jesus Christ was incredible, and I wonderedwhy I had not heard this before. After all I had been to church before andattended Sunday School (until I was thrown out!), so why now, why this time,why, why?

One Saturday evening, a special service was being held in town. It was calledan evangelistic service and a theatre was hired as the church had grown sopopular and had outgrown its building. My wife, two friends and I went along.That night the message was powerful and hit me hard. I heard of my need to

turn away from all the wrong in my life, that Jesus Christ was waiting for me,ME!, to give myself to Him and that I had to repent of all my wrongdoing andto have a permanent loving relationship with the very Son of God. It was free,and for me. A call was given by the preacher and people were invited to walkdown the long aisle, and kneel at the front for prayer and a life change. Theplace was packed, the atmosphere was intense, there was something in thatplace which I could not understand, but if this was God working, then who wasI to turn Him down. My body trembled, I shook, and I remember mumbling thewords to my wife, I have to go down, are, are you coming? She said no, andbefore I knew what was happening, I had turned and was walking down the

sloping aisle to the front. A man smiled at me and invited me to kneel. Heprayed over me and for me. I said AMEN, as I had never meant it before. Iknew that something had happened in me. I felt a change, it was not just theemotion, nor the tears, it was a freedom, a feeling, and a flush of newness.Still shaking, I went back up the aisle, and joined my wife and friends.

They hugged me, and it was one of the greatest moments of my life. Withinthree weeks, my wife had seen such a change in me, she too, wanted to giveherself to Christ, and she did this in the new church building. It was one of thegreatest moments in our life together. Within a month, we had boarded a ship

bound for England. We had lost everything we had taken out with us, but hadgained our Salvation.

I can sense you thinking, well, if he became a Christian, and it was a life-changing experience, why did these feelings continue? All I can tell you is thatif it had not for the fact that I had become a Christian, my desires would havetaken over earlier, and I would have destroyed my life and marriage. There isno doubt in my mind, that I would have been divorced, lost all I held dear, interms of my family, and would have been a lonely, desperate person. Christheld me together.

But, even as a Christian, having been a Deacon in the Church, Youth Leader,and a committed member involved with many events in the church, the devilwas not far from my shoulder. He knew my Achilles heel. He knew when to


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attack. Why then did I succumb and buy that dress overseas? What compelledme? It was moment of weakness. The devil seized his opportunity, and I gavein. He wanted to see me fulfil those suppressed desires over the last fiftyyears, it all came out so quickly, just like a tidal wave, one moment- nothing,the next, a huge, mountainous flood, of pent up emotions, desires,uncontrollable emotions; the girl within, suppressed over all these years, was

being born, the turmoil inside bubbled over and life became a roller-coaster.

The family were obviously concerned. They could see the changes. I had lostweight, my eyebrows were shaped, I was hairless, the tablets I was taking hadproduced mini-boobs and my nails were shaped and manicured, as well asother things. My wife hated it. My macho son, a tough site worker, spoke tome, with tears in his eyes, hating what I had become, and desperate to helpme. My daughter loved the old me, not this new creature. It all came to a headover a few days. My wife had spoken to my Pastor (a good friend, who knewmy history), and he came round. He spoke common sense to me; he laid on

the line, what I was doing to the family, what the consequences would be. All Icould think about was, me, me, and me. Why did they not understand? As Ispoke to him and the family in our living room, I laughed. It was not a normallaugh. It was eerie. I felt coldness come over me, I knew what it was, andafterwards they told me they heard the devil in that laugh. He had taken meover, I was addicted to my obsession, I was blind to the truth andconsequences, it was me, me and me. I knew that I had to make a massivedecision, either to give in to the girl within, or lose everything I had worked sohard for all these years; the battle raged and raged. I was worn out, I couldnot control the fight, and things greater than me were at work. Forces deeper

and darker and lighter were raging back and forth over the battleground, whichwas my whole being, body, mind and soul.

Over the next few days, I had to face reality. My loving wife of nearly 30 yearswas prepared to push me out of the family home; I had to choose between her,the family and my deep desires. The surge of emotions rocked me back andforth. Something had to be done, but what? Was I brave enough to change,was it worth it, what about the hidden woman within? I loved my wife and mychildren, and had given them everything I could. We were very close, and theymeant everything to me, but so did SHE. The ache in my body and mind grew.

My business was suffering, I had brought misery to those I loved, and the onlyhappiness I had was knowing that the female within me, wanted release.

I had to do something, and quickly. I had only a day or so, before I had tomove out, as the family could not take the huge strain any more. It wasaffecting their lives, in ways, I could not see nor understand. I was so selfobsessed, that nothing else mattered. I called my Pastor and asked to visit himin his study. My wife and daughter came too. I told him, I had made a decision.I was ready to deny myself, and my desires, and to repent, to give back to agenerous and loving God all my sin and thoughts, and to turn away from allthat was holding so tightly onto me. The Pastor gave me a very hard time. Hewanted reassurance that I was not just playing for time, that I was honest, andwilling. He said he would not pray with me there and then, until I had reallymade up my mind to change. I thought and thought. The battle raged within,


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fighting was taking place in my mind, things not understood were raging backand forth, I wanted to get right with God, I wanted my family back, I wanted afresh start, but could I let HER go? I was shot to pieces, and I said, loudly;yes, I want to change, I must do it now, please pray for me, lay hands on me,help me now. Its now or never. He could see that I was processed of thisthing, which only now, I realise was demonic. I knelt on the study floor, in

tears, I was choking, forces were telling not to do it, to walk out; freedom as awoman awaited me, after all, I had made such progress. I fought back, I criedaloud, I repented, I rebuked what had gone on in my life. The room swayed,the battle raged fiercely, then, when he laid hands on me, I felt a release, achange. I shuddered, my wife and daughter were in tears, and I urged theforces that were driving me to leave and for Christ to reign again, fully, andforever. I cannot remember all that happened. Who does in a battle situation? Iremember the Pastor anointing me with oil, and it running down my head, andonto my clothes. The prayers subsided. I was a wreck.

My story is almost at an end. All this happened 18 months ago. I left the study,and although my wife and daughter were sceptical (as they had seen thedeceit in me before), I knew I was changed. Never again could I expect thetrust from them that I had enjoyed before, and I have had to live with that. Igave them my suitcases of dresses, clothes, make up etc. It made them feelsick, and it was a major thing for me to do. I had to get rid of all that had heldme before. They disposed of the stuff. I stopped having manicures, and cut mynails short, I grew a small beard. I threw all the tablets away, and turned awayfrom anything that had to do with my

desires. I asked my Pastor for a verse that I could look at every day and enjoymy new freedom as a man, a father and a husband. I put a piece of paper nextto my bed, with encouraging verses, which I read every morning when I gotout of bed. I knew that the woman inside was dead. The power of Christ haddestroyed her, and all she stood for. Eighteen months on, the devil still tries topersuade me, but he knows that I will not go down that path, as theconsequences for my family would be immense. I am accountable to severalpeople, and I am enjoying my manhood. The consequences of sin are terrible.It almost destroyed my family, and their individual lives, my business, some ofmy church family, my friends, and me. My personal goals would have wrecked

untold number of lives. I was blind to it. How I praise and thank God for Hiskindness and patience with me. He has brought me back, and I am so grateful.Life has meaning, and is colourful again. My family flourish, and things areperfect all around me. I am very fortunate.

Have you had a similar experience? Did your story turn out differently to mine?I am a success because those who loved me stood by me. Those whocounselled me cared and pointed me to a solution. My Father God, wanted meto get right with Him. But all in all, I had to be willing to change, and that wasthe hardest bit. But, once I had decided, and the battle was fought and won,nothing compared to the freedom and release from the devils grip, and thewonderful reality of enjoying life, and family again.

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me. I hope it may help you too. There is always hope. If you are a Christianand have stumbled, God wants you back; relationships can be mended, theclock cannot be turned back, but you can turn back. You are the key.

Your old sinful nature. if you keep on following it, you are lost and willperish, but if through the power of the Holy Spirit you crush it, and its

evil deeds, YOU SHALL LIVE. (Romans 8:12-13)

The choice is yours. Id encourage you to turn round, and fight hard, and YOUSHALL LIVE.

Sam

Towards an understanding of transsexual behaviours.


Keith Tiller January 2010

Homosexual activists have moved from seeking a right of privacy todemanding social approval for the gay lifestyle, equal status with theheterosexual family and even the legal right to exploit the sexual uncertaintyof adolescentsKnowing how matters have turned out, would I have voteddifferently on any of these measures? I now see that we viewed them toonarrowly. As a lawyer and indeed a politician who believed so strongly in therule of law, I felt the prime considerations were that the law should be

enforceable and its application fair to those who might run foul of it. But lawsalso have a symbolic significance: they are signposts to the way society isdeveloping and the way society envisages that it should develop. Moreover,taking all of the liberal reforms of the sixties together they amount to morethan their individual parts. They came to be seen as a radically new frameworkwithin which the younger generation would be expected to behave.

(Margaret Thatcher. Autobiography The Path to Power. (1995 Harper Collins.p151)

1. Introduction.

In recent years public awareness of transgendered behaviours has increaseddramatically. This has come about primarily as a result of deliberate and skilfulcampaigning that has mirrored the homosexual political agenda.

The homosexual agenda began to take shape in the mid sixties with isolatedinstances of individuals coming out of the closet declaring themselves publiclyto be homosexual or lesbian. Today, any attempt to present an alternativevoice based on freedom of speech and truth is responded to aggressively withthe aim of silencing any opposition.

Thirty or forty years ago there was little cohesion between homosexual andtransgendered groups. For a time, the transgender agenda lingered behind the
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agenda of the homosexual lobby. Today, there is a successful political alliancebetween the two. The transgendered political agenda, although less overtlyaggressive, has mirrored the homosexual political agenda achieving as much ina considerably smaller time frame.

The Transgender Council meeting in Berlin during May 2008 attracted 200+

participants, representing 83 groups from 38 countries.

An increasingly secularised society, spearheaded by the GLBT [Gay, Lesbian,Bisexual and Transsexual) political lobby, openly challenges the authority of theChurch with respect to their response to the issue of transgender. Any attemptby the Church to present an alternative, Biblically based, response totransgendered behaviour is likely to receive condemnation for being bothbigoted and uninformed.

2. A brief review of the progress of the transgendered agenda.

In April 2000 the Home Office published the report of the InterdepartmentalWorking Group (IWG) on Transsexual People. The report contained submissionsfrom a variety of persons, of which only two were deemed expert. One of theexperts, Professor L Gooren from Amsterdam, pleaded for the acceptance oftranssexuality as an intersex condition. Intersex conditions have demonstrableunderlying biological cause (see below); transsexuality does not, a fact withwhich Gooren himself agreed. Medical authorities ridiculed the other expertwitness statement.

Other submissions were largely anecdotal accounts of acceptance suggestingthat there had occurred a fundamental shift in acceptance of transsexuality bysociety.

The Evangelical Alliance (E A) contributed a submission to the IWG. The E Ahad drawn together a small group of people who were well qualified in theirrespective fields to contribute to the IWG report.

The IWG wrote to the E A commending it for the quality of its submission andacknowledging that other submissions were largely anecdotal. However, thepublished report of the IWG contained no reference at all to the EvangelicalAlliance submission.

The IWG report was subsequently presented as evidence in a case taken to theEuropean Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg (Goodwin vs. the U.K.). In part,the Court concluded:

[a] Para 77 () The stress and alienation arising from discordance between theposition in society assumed by the post-operative transsexual and the statusimposed by law which refuses to recognise the change of gender cannot, in theCourts view, be regarded asa minor inconvenience rising from formality. A

conflict between social reality and law arises which places the transsexual in ananomalous position, in which he or she may experience feelings ofvulnerability, humiliation and anxiety.


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[b] Para 91. () theCourt considers that society may reasonably be expectedto tolerate a certain inconvenience to enable individuals to live in dignity andworth in accordance with the sexual identity chosen by them at great personalcost.

[c] The Court also concluded thatthere was no conclusive finding as to the

cause of transsexualism and, in particular, whether it is wholly psychological orassociated with the physical differentiation of the brain.

The unanimous judgement reversed earlier Court decisions all of which hadbeen unfavourable to transsexuals.

Following publication of the Court decision in the British media some doctorsresponded with statements such as the judgement was a victory for fantasyover reality. Those doctors who were prepared at the time to take a publicstance for truth and reality were berated from all over the world in a successful

attempt to silence them.

The then Lord Chancellor (Lord Irvine) stated that he was: persuaded by theCourts view that ongoing scientific and medical debate as tothe exact causesof the condition is of diminished relevance.

In April 2005 the Gender Recognition Act came into effect. That Act, amongstother things, overturned nearly four decades of legal precedent (Corbett vs.Corbett) that the chromosomes determine sex, shortly after conception, andcould not be altered by any subsequent recourse to surgery.

3. The present reality.

Today, as a result of the Gender Recognition Act, Britain has in effectlegislation to allow self determined gender identity that maybe confirmed bya Gender Recognition Panel (GRP). The panel has been created by the Act. Theneed to have undergone sex reassignment surgery is not a pre-requisite forthe issue of a new birth certificate by the GRP. In effect this allows a fullyfunctioning male or female to be legally recognised as belonging to theopposite sex with a confirming birth certificate. Thus, it is said, the Act createsa legal fiction.In the twelve months to October 31st. 2009 the GenderRecognition Panel granted 2436 certificates with 82 pending. (source. GeneralRegister Office South Port.)

In May 2008 the Equality and Human Rights Commission commissioned theNational Centre for Social Research (Nat Cent) to establish a clear picture ofthe recent and relevant evidence base on equality and discrimination inrelation to transgendered people. Trans research review. (Autumn 2009 p iv)

The project involved a comprehensive review of academic resources, greyliterature (non- published or non-peer reviewed) and policy documentation on

trans and was conducted at the end of 2008 and early 2009.

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campaigning or lobbying purposes, including commentary on the legal positionof trans people and discussion of experiences. (p iv)

The review (P71) draws a number of conclusions, including:

1. There is no reasonably accurate estimate of the size of the transgendered

population.

2. Most existing research has been conducted and funded by transgenderedadvocacy organisations. There are considerable problems inherent in studyingthe trans population.

The review makes no reference to the two Evangelical Alliance publications,which include substantial reporting of the available scientific literature. Nor tothe considerable body of published (peer reviewed) literature that focuses oncause and the reports of successful interventions that have resulted in reversal

of Gender Identity Disorder.

The review seems to assume as valid the common position of transgenderadvocacy groups that Gender Identity Disorder isbiologically determined. It appears therefore, that political activism has beenallowed to trump science.

4. The scientific reality.

There is no evidence that any influence, biological or social, will inevitably

create a transgender identity in a person. Evidence from twin studies furthershows this will always be the case. No factor yet to be discovered willinevitably create such an identity.

There is no overwhelming scientific case about the inevitability of transgenderor its development or its long-term stability. Assertions that there is consensusabout the inevitability are merely wishful thinking.2

Transgendered lobby groups have, over the last decade and a half, sought tojustify their behaviours by appealing to alleged scientific research.

They have variously claimed that:

1.Transgender is an intersex condition.

2.An abnormality is located in a region of the brain known as thehypothalamus. (Specifically the BSTc area)

3. It is the result of a pre-natal abnormal hormone surge.

None of these claims have scientific merit.

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2. In relation to the issue of an abnormality of the hypothalamusregion of the brain, Neil Whitehead Ph D who has reviewed all theavailable scientific literature says:

However in all these studies, the well-known neuro-plasticity of the brain maybe involved. Brain regions are well known to change in response to intense

thought processes, which are certainly present in transgender. Any differencesfound are more probably the result of the brain activity rather than thedifferences causing the anatomical differences. The former is well known frommany studies the latter is mostly speculative.2

3. In relation to the issue of pre-natal hormone surges he goes on to say thefollowing:

Those who argue for prenatal influences (inevitably expressed) can only finallyprove their case by longitudinal studies. That is, children must be followed for

about 30 years from birth and their development monitored, and the entiresocial environment as well.

This has not been done, and is not likely to be done, because transgender isrelatively uncommon, and to obtain a sufficient number of transgender peoplein the final sample (say 20) the sample size might need to approach half amillion people. But until it is, the most likely explanation of any correlation oftransgender with biological function or structure is some environmentalinfluence.2

Dr George Rekers, Distinguished Professor of Neuropsychiatry andBehavioural Science Emeritus at the University of South CarolinaSchool of Medicine author of over one hundred scientific papers,published the first empirical treatment in 1974 demonstrating that GIDin children and adolescents could be reversed.

A National Health Service (NHS) pamphlet entitled: Transgenderexperiences information and support for trans people, their families andhealthcare staff published in 2009 states that gender dysphoria is not amental illness. Gender Dysphoria is a recognised condition for which medicaltreatment is appropriate in some cases. This condition is increasinglyunderstood to have its origins before birth..

TheDiagnostic & Statistics Manual (DSM) V is due to be published in 2012.The Lesbian Gay and Bisexual (LGB) community want all sexuality relatedmatters to be declared non pathological. That would remove Gender IdentityDisorder from the manual. Ironically the transgender community is opposed asa diagnosis of mental illness is, in some cases, all that allows their operations.

5. The Biblical Position.

When transgendered behaviours emerge in a church there is often a startledreaction. Some members are quite hostile, others confused and a host ofquestions are generated and asked.


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The church leadership are likely to be uncertain as to how to respond. Thebasic question is what does the Bible have to say on the matter? The usualcursory exploration is unlikely to reveal Gods heart on the matter or does it?

The primary verse in the Bible that appears to address the issue oftransgendered behaviours is Genesis Chapter. 1. vs. 26 and 27. (NIV)

(vs 26)The God said, Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and lethim rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock,over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.

(vs 27) So God created man in his own image, and the image of God hecreated him: male and female he created them.

Jesus confirms Gods created intent in Mark, Chapter 10.

(vs 6) But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female.(Vs.7) For this reason man will leave his father and mother and be united tohis wife.

Deut: 22. 5 A woman must not wear mens clothing, nor a man wear womensclothing for the Lord your God detests any one does this. A complimentaryposition that upholds Gods creative intent as stated in Genesis.

Transgendered people will often say that, I must have this mistake correctedand also to insist on a personal right to act out the preferred gender role.

Compulsive pursuit of what is thus rebelliously envied is destructive torelationships

A desire to live deceiving ones self and others, by acting out in an assumedgender role, even if only for a short time, is ultimately a form of genderhatred. The gender hatred is likely to have developed in early childhood as aresponse to traumatic events and should be taken seriously. Thetransgendered frequently state even non-Christians that God has made amistake.

Many male transvestites and transsexuals are, or have been, married and

fathered children. Separation frequently occurs and isolation from the familyfollows as they are generally no longer accepted within the family or socially intheir preferred, that is self-determined, gender role. Alienation from society ingeneral encourages the development of special interest groups. These specialgroups claim that a post-modern society must embrace them and Christiansare seen to be hostile to their worldview.

In most cases children (including adult children) of a transgendered individualwant a father and mother who present and act according to societysbehavioural norms. Hence the children may be scared and traumatised and in

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We have a relational God whose concern is for wholesome Christ centredrelationships. The Bible lays down firm guidelines for family structures yetincreasingly these structures are being challenged by contemporary society.Pursuing transgendered behaviour alienates one from God.

Today women commonly wear jeans, slacks and suits that, apart from cut,

appear little different from male attire. A decade ago they would have beenwearing skirts or dresses. The clothes that women in particular and men wearcan change quite dramatically in a relatively short period of time. Climate canalso have a bearing in a warm climate both males and females are less likely towear jeans or long trousers.What is perhaps important is the individualmotivation for deliberately wearing clothing popular with the opposite sex.

6. The Church Reality.

In regard to developing an appropriate Christian response to both homosexual

and transgender behaviours Dr Andrew Goddard has noted:

That consensus in both theory and practice is being questioned or evencollapsing in many denominations, local churches and Christian networks.Existing church structures are under threat like never before.3

7. Overcoming.

Romans Chapter 1 gives a clear expression of Gods willingness to honour ourfree will. We have been freed to go our own way, but there will be

consequences if we deviate from our design criteria. This is a fundamentalcreational truth that society increasingly rejects. Paul tells us in Romans 1:25we have exchanged the truth of God for a lie

Overcoming transgendered behaviours is often directly related to oneswillingness to enter into an ever-closer relationship with God. A personal,obedient, trusting relationship with Him is necessary in achieving a morewholesome lifestyle. Obedience to a Biblical statute alone will not bring aboutsexual wholeness. (Jer.31: 33-34)

Transgendered people are deeply wounded people, regardless of how maturethey can outwardly seem. Wounded people have a deep sense of shame.Addictive behaviours have roots into shame. Transgendered behaviour isaddictive and fuelled by shame. Fantasy is an indicator of the level ofaddiction. Acting out the fantasy by hopefully depositing oneself into adifferent body with a pain-free existence, can create immense distress.

To build an intimate relationship with God by wounded people takes time.(Eze.36: 25-27) The place to begin to nurture such an intimate relationshipwith the Lord is within the church.

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wanting to overcome the behaviour.

For others the behaviour becomes a false comfort that they have come toknow and rely upon when relationship deficits in their lives occur. The risk anduncertainty involved in surrendering their dependence on this false comfortand taking up his cross, as Jesus put it, will often be unacceptable. When we

give up a fixed behaviour pattern we experience loss. This loss has to begrieved in the same way as we grieve the loss of a person, or position, orcountry. Until a personal relationship with the Lord is established there will beresistance.

For males sex re-assignment surgery which may have included; mammaaugmentation, vaginoplasty, facial surgery, voice adapting surgery, and bodycontouring and electrolysis for beard treatment, as hormone treatment doesnot remove a beard.

Females are often prepared to undergo mammaplasty (breast reduction) aswell as extensive hormone therapy. Such treatment is, nevertheless, merelycosmetic and can only produce an approximation of the new gender.

For the transgendered resuming original gender identity will involve acceptanceby the male that surgery to satisfactorily replace removed primary sex organsis of limited value and that hormone replacement will continue for the rest ofhis life. For the female who has had considerable exposure to male sexhormones and developed male facial and body hair and a receding hairline,reversal will be slow. She may have to undertake prolonged and painful

electrolysis.

Some people who have undergone SRS subsequently become Christian anddecide to resume their original biological sex and may go on to marry. If theyare male they will not be able to conceive children and are likely to incurdifficulties if they seek to adopt. The overcoming pathway will, for allconcerned, be fraught with difficulties. Successful therapy will include totaldependence on Gods mercy and grace. The recovery, or sanctification,pathway may be littered with so many obstacles which may impair thereceptivity to Gods grace.

As the Holy Spirit guides the journey out of shame and into wholeness thetransgendered person will need the on going support and understanding of acaring Christian community, willing to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit.

Jesus was fully prepared to meet people where they are at. So should we, ifwe hope to restore the transgendered to sexual wholeness. In the third chapterof Johns gospel we see a picture of Jesus meeting with a Pharisee a well-educated religious leader. In the next chapter we see Him meeting with aSamaritan woman Samaritans being despised by the Jews. In the eighthchapter we see Jesus meeting with someone legally condemned by the law for

adultery. Rather than run from Jesus they all appear to be drawn to Him. Weneed to look to His example to guide us in ministry to the gender confused.


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1. Gender Recognition A Guide for Churches to the Gender Recognition Act(U.K.). Evangelical Alliance & Parakaleo Ministry. Jan2006. P27.

2. N. E. Whitehead. PhD Personal correspondence and unpublished report April2009

3. Rev. A. Goddard. PhD Elevating the conversation: Christians discussinghomosexuality Aug. 2009

8. Glossary

Drag Queen: Usually a male homosexual who for theatrical purposescaricatures women. Away from the stage such performers are usually contentto resume their male gender role. (The term drag arises from Elizabethantheatre. Then, women were not allowed to perform on stage. Female partswere played by young males who dragged the heavy female costumes

sometimes with small wheels attached across the stage.)

Gender: The psychological and social characteristics that indicate to onesself, and to others, that an individual is either male or female

Gender Identity Disorder: Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and GenderDysphoria are clinical terms used to describe the psychological conditionexperienced by people who refer to themselves as transsexual ortransgendered. Such clinical terms are more accurate as they imply that theissue is one of self-perceived identity, which is confirmed by the weight of

objective medical opinion

Gender Reassignment Surgery: Also referred to as sex reassignmentsurgery. (SRS). Gender reassignment surgery refers to a range of radicalsurgical operations designed to conform the body superficially to that of theopposite biological sex

Homosexuality: The physical and or emotional attraction (not necessarilyacted upon) to persons of the opposite sex. Few male homosexuals areconfused about their (male) gender identity. Ambivalent gender identity ismore common amongst female homosexuals (lesbians). Few malehomosexuals are attracted to transgendered persons.

Intersex: Unlike transsexuality, intersex refers to a number of rare medicalconditions where physical sexual ambiguity exists at birth or develops later.Some intersex conditions may not be evident until puberty. Intersex conditionsare not the same as transsexuality. Intersex conditions result fromchromosomal disorders.

Sex:The biological difference between male and female, which is determinedshortly after conception and usually confirmed at birth by observation.

Trans: Trans man: Trans woman: Terms used within the lifestyle thatrefer, usually, to individuals living in their assumed gender role.


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Transgender: Interchangeable with transsexual.

Transsexual: Refers to the usually self-diagnosed condition of a transsexualor transgendered person. Such a person is an apparently biologically normalperson who, as a result of personal identity crisis, has an overwhelming desireto be identified as a member of the opposite sex. Commonly, they have the

conviction that they have been born into the wrong body.

Transvestite: Transvestism (cross dressing) is the wearing of the clothing ofthe opposite sex, usually by men, often resulting in sexual arousal.

Suicide rates of Post. Op transsexuals.


The following abstract published in March 2011 is quite significant:

CONTEXT: The treatment for transsexualism is sex reassignment, includinghormonal treatment and surgery aimed at making the persons body ascongruent with the opposite sex as possible. There is a dearth of long term,follow-up studies after sex reassignment.

To estimate mortality, morbidity, and criminal rate after surgical sexreassignment of transsexual persons.

DESIGN: A population-based matched cohort study.

SETTING: Sweden, 1973-2003.

PARTICIPANTS All 324 sex-reassigned persons (191 male-to-females, 133female-to-males) in Sweden, 1973-2003. Random population controls(10ratio1) were matched by birth year and birth sex or reassigned (final) sex,respectively.

MAIN OUTCOME:MEASURES: Hazard ratios (HR) with 95% confidence intervals(CI) for mortality and psychiatric morbidity were obtained with Cox regressionmodels, which were adjusted for immigrant status and psychiatric morbidityprior to sex reassignment (adjusted HR [aHR]). RESULTS: The overall mortalityfor sex-reassigned persons was higher during follow-up (aHR 2.8; 95% CI 1.8-4.3) than for controls of the same birth sex, particularly death from suicide(aHR 19.1; 95% CI 5.8-62.9). Sex-reassigned persons also had an increasedrisk for suicide attempts (aHR 4.9; 95% CI 2.9-8.5) and psychiatric inpatientcare (aHR 2.8; 95% CI 2.0-3.9). Comparisons with controls matched onreassigned sex yielded similar results. Female-to-males, but not male-to-females, had a higher risk for criminal convictions than their respective birthsex controls.

CONCLUSIONS: Persons with transsexualism, after sex reassignment, haveconsiderably higher risks for mortality, suicidal behaviour, and psychiatricmorbidity than the general population. Our findings suggest that sex
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reassignment, although alleviating gender dysphoria, may not suffice astreatment for transsexualism, and should inspire improved psychiatric andsomatic care after sex reassignment for this patient group.

Dhejne, C., Lichtenstein, P., Boman, M., Johansson, A.L., Langstrom, N. andLanden, M. (2011) Long-term follow-up of transsexual persons undergoing sex

reassignment surgery: cohort study in sweden. PLoS One 6, e16885

A summary in plainer English:those undergoing sex reassignment are 2.8times as likely to die from all causes as controls; 19.1 times as likely to die bysuicide, 4.9x as likely to attempt suicide, 2.8x as likely to undergo psychiatricinpatient treatment, and had higher criminal convictions.

It is utterly unsurprising that there is so many psychiatic problems, but it hasbeen fashionable to brush this known fact aside.

GIRES (Gender Information Research and Education Society) e-learning resource

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Recently my attention was drawn to the following website: www.gires.org.uk.

This site refers to a training resource produced by GIRES (Gender InformationResearch and Education Society).

Background

Firstly, if you havent previously come across GIRES, let me explain who theyare. GIRES consists, principally, of a husband and wife couple, Bernard & TerryReed. Both are well educated, although not in the sciences. If they wereperhaps they would be a little more cautious about their statements ontransgender.

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The word gender has been used until recently to mean the psychological &physical characteristics that distinguish male and female. And, often, still is. Inrecent years it has become common to replace the word sex with the wordgender.(Womens rights groups began to popularise the use of the wordgender in this way.)

It is therefore difficult at times to know precisely in which context GIRES usesthe term. Perhaps aware of this difficulty they are now increasingly using theterm gender variant which implies being different from the norm. In the waythe term is used by GIRES it remains an oxymoron. The pre-supposition thatgender is biologically determined is false.

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Information supplied by GIRES is deliberately misleading, presumably forideological reasons, as the following comment by Dr Neil Whitehead aptlydemonstrates.

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A research organisation it is not. An organisation that exists to presentdeliberately misleading information for ideological reasons, perhaps!

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The value of its role as an educational society must be seriously questioned.

A further comment

I have met with Bernard & Terry Reed on two occasions. At the first meeting

they produced a power point presentation which outlined a series of scientificreferences which they claimed demonstrated conclusively that gender isbiologically determined. I and a colleague who attended that meeting wereinstructed at the outset that questions were not permitted. Some years earlierI and the same colleague were involved in the producing of two separatepublications that, based on sound scientific research, contradicted virtually alltheir power point assertions. Clearly GIRES research had not uncovered eitherpublically available publication. Or, they deliberately chose to ignore them.

At the second meeting months later I strongly challenged the very premise on

which they (GIRES) took their stand.

The meeting concluded on good terms, I believe. However, it has since becomeapparent that their position on transgender has not changed one iota.

Throughout the last 15 or 20 years it has not been unusual for me to bepublically and privately vilified by members of the transgender communityclaiming that I am bigoted and unwilling to listen to reason. This is in spite ofthe fact that I have constantly used my best endeavours to understand truthand what science is saying about transgendered behaviours.

I can therefore only conclude that it is the transgender community and theirmisguided supporters, such as GIRES and others with their own vestedinterests who qualify to be called bigots.

Professional comments on GIRES e-learning resource

Neil Whitehead, Ph. D*

The training resource says that neither your sex characteristics nor yourupbringing determine your gender identity. On the contrary, while they do not

absolutely create gender identity, they do create it to a high degree.

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characteristics and upbringing produce divalent gender identity to anextraordinarily high degree, and this characterisesdetermine as the word isnormally used. There is considerable evidence for this, hundreds of scientificpapers dealing directly with the observed developmental psychology processeswhich lead to gender identity.

In contrast the most the (GIRES) authors can say is that there is considerablescientific evidence that gender identity is influenced before birth. The wordinfluenced is quite weak and papers dealing with this hypothesis (notobservations) are a handful, negligible compared with those examining post-natal factors. This is certainly notconsiderable.

The clear statement is made that we are born with gender identity. This isabsolutely wrong. Researchers define gender identity as a consciously heldidea. This idea simply does not exist in new borns. They do not even have asense of a separate identity from their mother for months. The stages by which

they acquire a sense of gender identity have been much investigated, andmuch of this like all childrens learning is from copying others of the same sex.

An alternative less clear interpretation of being born with gender identity isthat we are inescapably destined to a particular gender identity, as this traitdevelops.

No academic of my acquaintance will say that gender identity is completelyfixed prenatally and unchangeable thereafter. Rather they will say that allhuman traits are multifactorial, having very many influences from prenatal,

family, society, developing physiological states through childhood and randomexperiential sources. Further there is considerable malleability and strong postnatal influence can have a considerable effect. A girl subjected to bad sexualabuse may retreat from a gender identity of femininity to that of androgyny.

Saying we cannot change who we are inside, is contrary to human experience.The authors are laudably attempting to create precisely this change to dispelprejudice in the minds of their listeners, and such prejudicial beliefs can indeedchange. But (as shown by twin studies) there is much stronger scientificevidence for innateness of prejudice in several fields than of innateness ofgender identity!

The authors are pointing to the experiences of many who have not found itpossible to change their gender identity, or to those who experienced conflictvery early, as implicit evidence that change does not happen. But there isevidence available from those who have changed and contrary interviewmaterial could have been produced, as the authors are aware. In view of that,it is scientifically indefensible to assert that gender identity cannotchange. The authors may not know that nearly 100 years ago the standardmedical opinion was that alcoholism was incurable. The fact that so very manynow routinely change shows how totally misleading it is to mistake great

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there could always be somewhere some very skilled therapist who would havesome successes, or new treatments might emerge. It is another example ofthe philosophical principle that it is impossible to prove a universal negative.

The DSM (Diagnostic & Statistics Manual) manuals classify GID (GenderIdentity Disorder) as a mental illness. If the authors want to argue otherwise,

their forum is certainly not a training course, but a scientific article in theJournal of Sexual Medicineor a related publication.

There may be many reasons for treating trans people with respect, but for theauthors to invoke science in this way, implying that there is such a clear aconsensus around their position that public policy inevitably follows, is totallyincorrect and reprehensible.

(My bolding, italics and brackets.)

*Dr Whitehead has a multi-disciplinary, Ph.D. For forty years he has worked asa researcher for the New Zealand government and the United Nations. And, fortwo Japanese universities. He has some 30 published papers on this andrelated subjects.

Dr Whiteheads website:www.mygenes.co.nz

About Us

Welcome to Parakaleo Ministry

Parakaleo, meaning to appeal or to exhort gently, is the original Greekword used in 1 Tim 5: 1-2.

Parakaleo, meaning to appeal or to exhort gently, is the original Greekword used in 1 Tim 5: 1-2.

It has been selected as the name for this ministry, because, as indicated byPaul in his letter to Timothy, it reflects the attitude we seek to minister topeople experiencing gender confusion.

Gender identity confusion or Gender identity disorder is the term used todescribe people whose sense of self (identity) is inconsistent with theirbiological sex.

These people are usually referred to as transvestite, transsexual ortransgendered. Though there are historical examples of gender confusion, theterms transvestite and transsexual are peculiar to the twentieth century. TheBible therefore appears to have little to say directly on the subject.

Unfortunately these conditions are poorly understood, and when help and

understanding is sought from either secular (i.e. medical etc.) authorities orChristian sources even greater confusion can occur.
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The consequences for both the individual and those caring for them can bequite devastating.

Jesus provided relief for people in a non judgmental way, as in the case of thewoman caught in adultery. (John Ch.8)

The aim of Parakaleo Ministry is to begin in a similar vein, and to introducepeople to the message of the Gospel and the healing love of the Lord JesusChrist.

Our Mission

Mission Statement

Parakaleo Ministry is a Christian referral and resource agency, based in theUnited Kingdom, dedicated to providing a biblical response to transgenderism,

gender confusion and related distortions of scriptural truth. The ministrymentors those seeking to re establish their God given gender identity anddestiny. Parakaleo also encourages and seeks to equip friends, loved ones,church leaders, and fellow Christians to a truthful and compassionateresponse.

Doctrinal Statement

We believe the scriptures of the Old and New Testament are the inspiredWord of God, the final authority of doctrine, reproof, correction, and instruction

in right living.

We believe in one God, existing eternally in three persons: Father, Son andHoly Spirit.

We believe in the deity of the Lord Jesus Christ, fully man and fully God, onlybegotten Son of the Father. He was conceived of the holy Spirit, born of theVirgin Mary, and lived a sinless life. He suffered under Pontius Pilate, wascrucified, buried, and rose physically from the dead. He ascended to the righthand of the Father and will come again in power and glory.

We believe that males and females are created distinctly by God, intended tobe complimentary, and united only in biblically ordered marriage.

We believe that all have sinned; that faith alone in Jesus Christ as Saviourand Lord frees us from the mastery of sin, and the consequences of death andeternal damnation. We believe Jesus Christ assumed the penalty of deathHimself, and enables us to live out of His resurrected life unto eternity.

We believe the Holy Spirit carries out the work of renewal in our lives,empowering us to grow in loving union with our Heavenly Father and to walk in

obedience to His will.

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Him as their Saviour and Lord, regardless of denominational beliefs.

FAQs

Frequently asked questions about:Transvestism,orTranssexuality/Transsexualism

Transvestism

1. What is transvestism or crossdressing?

The compulsive wearing of clothing pertaining to the opposite sex. It isprimarily a male activity. It often results in sexual arousal. Transvestitesremain aware of, and usually content with, their biological sex.

2. How does transvestism differ from transsexuality?

Transvestism and male transsexuality differ by degree. Both behaviours arepart of a continuum. Transsexuality represents the end of the continuum.Transsexuals are not content with their biological sex. All transsexuals mustnecessarily go through a crossdressing period.

3. Identity

Transvestism and transsexuality are both issues ofpersonal identity. Clinicallysuch behaviours are referred to as Gender Identity Disorder (GID).

4. Are homosexuality and transvestism the same?

No. Transvestism is not homosexuality. (Transsexuals frequently stronglydissociate with homosexuality.)

5. What is a drag queen?

Some homosexuals enjoy the theatrical parody of women and are known asdrag queens. The term is believed to have originated with Elizabethan theatre.In those days women were not allowed to perform, so the parts were played

by boys or small, slightly men. Female costumes were heavy and were draggedacross the stage.

6. Fetishism

Sexual arousal associated with an inanimate object such as gloves or shoes.

7. Cause of transvestism

No known bio-chemical (biological) cause can be demonstrated to exist.

Invariably, transvestites report the practice developing in early childhood,certainly before the onset of puberty. Authorities tend to agree that cause ismulti-factorial primarily psychological in origin.
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B. The practice of transvestism (Acting out)

Transvestism often takes place secretly and in isolation. It is not uncommon forit to occur in the privacy of home with the consent of a spouse. Most wives,however, find it difficult to cope with and come to resent it deeply.

Increasing public awareness has spawned the development of small socialgroups that meet regularly. Such groups foster and encourage socialrelationships, including adoption of gender specific names and dressing fully inthe clothes associated with the opposite sex. Specialist clothing chains exist tocater for transgendered persons.

As with any repeated behaviour it is possible that the behaviour becomesaddictive.

Transvestites can often sustain long periods of abstinence (often preceded by

the purging of all female clothing). Re-activation can be triggered by stress orpersonal crisis that may also involve a change of circumstance.

Signs that crossdressing has become addictive include:

(1) Frequency, and/or(2) Overriding desire to crossdress(3) Unwillingness to stop or seek help (denial)(4) Willingness to take risks to pursue the activity(5) Alienation from friends and family in pursuance of the behaviour

(6) The compulsive spending of excessive amounts on clothes andcrossdressing activities(7) The compulsive purging of all items of clothing, with a (unsuccessful)

commitment never to repeat

C. Is transvestism compatible with Christianity?

What constitutes gender appropriate clothing varies from culture to culture.Crossdressing is acceptable in cultures such as Samoan society, certain sects inIndia. Crossdressing native American Indians have been regarded as a type ofholy man.

The passage of time and changes of fashion also determine gender appropriateclothing. In Western society what may not have been considered genderappropriate apparel 30 or 40 years ago may have become acceptable today.The wearing of trousers and slacks by women in a cold climate may becommonplace but uncomfortable and inappropriate in a hot climate. AScotsman wearing a kilt is not a transvestite.

The wearing of opposite sex clothing is proscribed in the Old Testament.(Deuteronomy 22:5). Therefore does Deuteronomy 22:5 have an application to

the 21st. Century New Testament Christian?

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instructions handed down to Moses from God. Falling as it does amongstinstructions such as: to build a parapet on flat roofed houses, making oftassels for a cloak. And, not plowing with both an ox & a donkey yokedtogether many of which are clearly no longer appropriate in todays society.Some, therefore conclude that Deuteronomy 22:5 similarly has no applicationfor todays Christian.

Indeed it is rationalised by some that by the grace flowing from the death ofJesus on the Cross, crossdressing is a permissible activity for Christians.Neither the word transvestism nor crossdressing (or, for that mattertranssexuality) appear in the New Testament. The word transvestism wasoriginally a psychological term coined only in the early part of the 20th centuryto describe men who habitually crossdress. The fact that the constraintappears in one of the earliest books of the Old Testament evidences thatcrossdressing, by both males and females, is not an exclusively a 20th centuryphenomena.

The Hebrew word toebah is the word that is translated into English asabomination or detestable in Deuteronomy 22:5. It appears in otherpassages of Old Testament scripture notably Leviticus 18:22 and Lev. 20:13.Used in the context the word means to reverse what is good. It also has astrong element of idolatry contained in its meaning.

The book of Genesis gives an outline of Gods created intent declaring that Hiscreation of male and female to be very good. It is clear from the passage thatHis intent that male and female are intended to be complimentary.

The use of the Hebrew word toebah in Deuteronomy 22:5 would indicate thatany human behaviour that reverses His created intent either inadvertently orby design is anathema to God. The implication is that for the Jews, whose lifeis determined by the Old Testament crossdressing is to be seen as an issue ofmorality. (Jesus himself is recorded as referring back paradigmatically to thecreation passage Genesis 1:27.)

The book of Romans begins with an account of humankinds state of rebellionagainst God. To emphasise the gravity of this rebellion against God, Paulrepeats three times that God gave them over to repeat that which ought notto be done.

Paul makes it clear that as a consequence of mans rebellion, and the lack ofobedience, that immoral behaviour (sin) will follow. Immorality or unrighteousbehaviour are the result of mankinds rebellion against God.

The Old Testament comprised civil, ceremonial and moral law. The NewTestament with Jesus authority, shows that the civil and ceremonial laws aresuperseded, whilst the moral law is to be upheld.

Therefore, mankind as a whole is seen to be rebellious in the New Testamentjust as it is in the Old Testament. (When Paul declared in his epistle to theRomans the state of mankind, the New Testament had not then come to be


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compiled.)

Pauls statement of the rebellious nature of mankind as a whole is a leveler.That is, no one is exempt from that indictment (for all have sinned and fallshort of the glory of God). It is only through the death of Jesus on the crossthat man can be redeemed. It is only then, as a consequence of Gods mercy,

that man can be credited with righteousness.

Christians responding through the New Birth implicitly agree to honour Hismercy by remaining obedient to Gods demands of purity and obedience to Hisholiness code.

In his first epistle to the Corinthian church it is clear that Paul expects changeto occur away from former immoral lifestyles such as idolatry, adultery andeffeminacy. Contemporary commentaries on this epistle indicate that the Greekwords that are translated into current English as homosexuality, also extend to

behaviours that identify with the opposite sex i.e. transvestism andtranssexuality.

Paul goes on to state emphatically that such unrepentant persons will notinherit the Kingdom of Heaven.

Paul states in his epistle to the Galatians that : we were held prisoners bythe law, locked up until faith should revealed, having earlier declared that hisunderstanding had come by the direct revelation of Jesus Christ.

The author of the epistle to the Hebrews, in Chapter 6 encourages the movingon from the elementary teachings of Christ to enlightened understanding andmaturity. The epistle states that it is impossible for persons, who havingreceived the elementary teachings of Christ and have then fallen away, notmoving on to maturity, to be bought back to repentance. By falling away, theauthor states, such persons subject the Son of God all over again to the publicdisgrace of the Cross.

Therefore, it must be concluded that a Christian who continues dressing in theclothing of the opposite sex so as to create the illusion of being a member ofthe opposite sex is in effect remaining in a state of rebellion against God andsubjects himself to the due penalty. It matters not whether that person does soin isolation, or with the active participation of others Christian or nonChristian.

D. A pastoral response

Active participation, whether alone or in company, will result in an increaseddesire to pursue the activity. The crossdressing behaviour will come todominate the lifestyle. Any behaviour that dominates a lifestyle, or likely tolead to its dominance is, for the Christian idolatry.

Experience has shown that where repentance is genuine the addictivecomponent of crossdressing will be recognised by the individual concerned.


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To move to wholeness in Christ and overcome any addictive behaviour anacknowledgment of dependency on Christ is a necessary first step. Suchbehaviours can have such a stranglehold that an establishment of a strictregime in accountability is essential.

The Church ought to provide a supportive environment whilst any unresolved

issues that have lead to the development of the behaviour in the first place areaddressed.

Prayer alone, without the active support of others, is likely not to succeed andresult in disillusionment. Overcoming such behaviours can be painful andtedious. Personal commitment, by all concerned, is essential.

Transsexuality/Transsexualism

1. What is a transsexual?

The term is used to describe an apparently biologically normal individual whohas an overwhelming desire to be identified as a member of the opposite sex.Increasingly such individuals seek chemical (hormone) therapy and surgery toconform their body to that of the opposite biological sex. In reality it isimpossible to chemically or surgically alter ones biological sex. Medicalauthorities consistently assert that sex is determined by the chromosomes.

2. What causes transsexualism?

There are no scientifically proven genetic or organic causes for transsexualism.There is much indemonstrable speculation and unsubstantiated mythology.Most serious available medical research suggests that it is a psychologicalcondition.

3. What is Intersex?

A number of rare(1:2000 births) medical conditions where some physicalsexual ambiguity exists. These well known conditions include hermaphroditism,Turners syndrome & congenital adrenal hyperplasia. Some intersex conditionsmay not manifest until adolescence. Intersex conditions have demonstrable

underlying biochemical causes, which are normally confirmed by blood tests.Intersex conditions should notbe confused with transsexualism. Correctdiagnosis of transsexualism should include a chromosome test to eliminatethe possibility of a pre-existing intersex condition.

4. What is Gender Identity Disorder?

The clinical (or medical) term used to describe those people who describethemselves (or self-determine) as transsexual. The term transsexualism is amisnomer. The clinical term is more accurate as a persons self-perceived

identityis emphasised. It is a popular though misleading claim thattranssexualism (Gender Identity Disorder) is now has proven that thecondition exists as a consequence of an abnormality in the brain, or perhaps as


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a consequence of some hormonal imbalance prior to birth. Whilst someresearch has been conducted into the brains of deceased transsexuals studiesare limited in scope and far from conclusive. Prenatal hormonal imbalancetheories are speculative. The amount of scientific research into transsexualismis limited. Research that has been conducted overwhelmingly points tocausation being multi-factorial and primarily psychological in origin. Psychiatric

evidence indicates that gender ambiguity can be responsive to therapieswithout recourse to surgery. Transsexualism therefore continues to beregarded by medical authoritiesas primarily an issue of personal identity,though appropriate treatment of the condition is disputed.

5.Is transsexualism homosexuality?

No. Homosexualism is the physical and/or emotional attraction to persons ofthe same sex, including the desire to act out that attraction. Homosexuals arenormally content with their biological (given) sex. They rarely have any strong

desire to change sex.

6. Is bi-sexualism the same as transsexualism?

No.

7. Are children at risk?

No. Transgendered persons are not paedophiles.

8. What is sex reassignment surgery (SRS)?

A number of surgical operations designed to conform the body to that of theopposite biological sex. Surgery is normally concurrent with chemical(hormonal) therapies that can redistribute body fat, alter skin texture andincrease or reduce bodily hair. The degree of surgery or chemical therapiesundertaken can very from individual to individual. It has been estimated thatpossibly as many as 50% of transsexuals do not actually proceed to SRS.

9.How much does surgery cost?

It varies with the amount of surgery requested. At least 7,000.

10. What happens if a person changes their mind after surgery?

Post-operative transsexuals do from time to time recognise that surgery was amistake, or poorly performed. It is impossible satisfactorily to replacesurgically removed genitalia. A measure of reparative surgery is available atconsiderable cost.

11. Is pre-operative counselling available?

It is, but increasingly candidates are being fast-tracked through to surgeryvirtually upon request with minimal or no counselling. Existing guidelines


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