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Communication To Talk or How to Talk?

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CommunicationTo Talk or How to Talk?

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About Me

- 26 years old

- Korean (South)

- Traditional Name: 정현찬 (Jeong Hyun Chan) a.k.a. Daniel

- Grew up in Kenya and came to South Africa from the year 2000

- Enjoy programming (Primarily JavaScript / Java) and now SQL!

- Latest (and first-ever-‘corporate’) Job: System Analyst

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About Me

- 26 years old

- Korean (South)

- Traditional Name: 정현찬 (Jeong Hyun Chan) a.k.a. Daniel

- Grew up in Kenya and came to South Africa from the year 2000

- Enjoy programming (Primarily JavaScript / Java) and now SQL!

- Latest (and first-ever-‘corporate’) Job: System Analyst

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CommunicationTo Talk or How to Talk?

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#1 Effective Communication Requires Effective Leadership

#2 Effective Communication is a Negotiation

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#1 Effective Communication Requires Effective Leadership

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Alice BobCommunicate with Intention

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Alice BobCommunicate with Intention

“Take me out to a Gig!”

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Alice BobCommunicate with Intention

Alice BobDesire to Influence

“Take me out to a Gig!”

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Alice BobCommunicate with Intention

Alice BobDesire to Influence

Alice BobDesire to Lead

“Take me out to a Gig!”

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Alice BobCommunicate with Intention

Alice BobDesire to Influence

Alice BobDesire to Lead

“Take me out to a Gig!”

“OK Cool”

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Effective Communication Effective Leadership

requires

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Effective Communication Effective Leadership

requires

HOW?

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Mahatma Gandhi Lee Soon Shin

Winston Churchill

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Nelson Mandela

Desmond Tutu

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John Maxwell, 21 Laws of Leadership

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The 21 Laws

1. The Lid 8. Intuition 15. Victory

2. Influence 9. Magnetism 16. Big Mo

3. Process 10. Connection 17. Priorities

4. Navigation 11. Inner Circle 18. Sacrifice

5. Addition 12. Empowerment 19. Timing

6. Solid Ground 13. Picture 20. Explosive Growth

7. Respect 14. Buy-in 21. Legacy

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The 21 Laws

1. The Lid 8. Intuition 15. Victory

2. Influence 9. Magnetism 16. Big Mo

3. Process 10. Connection 17. Priorities

4. Navigation 11. Inner Circle 18. Sacrifice

5. Addition 12. Empowerment 19. Timing

6. Solid Ground 13. Picture 20. Explosive Growth

7. Respect 14. Buy-in 21. Legacy

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The 21 Laws - Categorized

Insight

Living Example

People and Relationships

Trust and Reliability

Can I Leave?

The Lid

Sacrifice

Connection

Intuition

Addition Victory

Timing

Inner Circle Empowerment

Solid Ground Navigation Respect

Legacy

Buy-in

Priorities

Picture

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The 21 Laws

1. The Lid 8. Intuition 15. Victory

2. Influence 9. Magnetism 16. Big Mo

3. Process 10. Connection 17. Priorities

4. Navigation 11. Inner Circle 18. Sacrifice

5. Addition 12. Empowerment 19. Timing

6. Solid Ground 13. Picture 20. Explosive Growth

7. Respect 14. Buy-in 21. Legacy

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Effective Communication is Effective Leadership

- When there’s no leverage, it’s about Influence

- It’s a process, and it takes time

- Recognize magnetism, and work from there

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#2 Effective Communication is a Negotiation

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Annoying Conversations

- I’m not interested

- I have no idea why they’re talking about this subject?

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George Siedel, Michigan University, “Successful Negotiation” in Coursera.org

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Interest Based

Position Based

V.S.

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Sharing PizzaAlice Bob

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Sharing PizzaAlice Bob

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Sharing PizzaAlice Bob

Loves tomato Sauce and the pizza base

Just feels like some meat. Actually wants the Salami on top

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Sharing PizzaAlice Bob

Loves tomato Sauce and the pizza base

Just feels like some meat. Actually wants the Salami on top

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Negotiation Analysis

- What is your goal

- What are the issues?

- What is your BATNA

- What is the Most Acceptable Outcome

- What is the Least Acceptable Outcome

- What is your Stretch Goal

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BATNALeast Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

BATNALeast Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

Alice

Bob

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BATNALeast Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

BATNALeast Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

Alice

Bob

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BATNA

Least Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

BATNA

Least Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

Alice

Bob

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BATNA

Least Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

BATNA

Least Acceptable

Stretch GoalMost Acceptable

Alice

Bob

Best alternative to a negotiated agreement

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Effective Communication is a Negotiation

- Know your goals

- At least try to gauge the other party’s goals

- Find the REGION OF INTEREST

- Do you have a BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement)?

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Conclusion

- Evaluate your level of Leadership:

- how much influence do you have?

- How can you do better?

- Recognize Magnetism

- Understand that it’s a negotiation

- Know yourself … and try to understand the other party too

- Find your REGION OF INTEREST

- Ensure you have a BATNA