A True WomanA True Woman

What is Christ waiting for?What is Christ waiting for?

Christ is waiting with longing Christ is waiting with longing desire for the manifestation of desire for the manifestation of Himself in His church. When Himself in His church. When the the character of Christ shall be character of Christ shall be perfectly reproduced in His perfectly reproduced in His peoplepeople, then He will come to claim , then He will come to claim them as His own. them as His own.

Christ’s Object Lessons 69Christ’s Object Lessons 69

Self-sacrificeSelf-sacrifice

Not one in twentyNot one in twenty of those of those who have a good standing with who have a good standing with Seventh-day Adventists is living out Seventh-day Adventists is living out the self-sacrificing principles of the the self-sacrificing principles of the word of God. 1T 632word of God. 1T 632

A true woman….A true woman….

Proverbs 31:10 - 12Proverbs 31:10 - 12 “Who can find a “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price virtuous woman? for her price isis far far above rubies.above rubies.

The heart of her husband doth safely The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. need of spoil.

She will do him good and not evil all She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” the days of her life.”

Submission of EveSubmission of Eve

Eve was told of the sorrow and pain Eve was told of the sorrow and pain that must henceforth be her portion. And that must henceforth be her portion. And the Lord said, "Thy desire shall be to thy the Lord said, "Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." In husband, and he shall rule over thee." In the creation, God had made her the equal the creation, God had made her the equal of Adam. Had they remained obedient to of Adam. Had they remained obedient to God--in harmony with His great law of God--in harmony with His great law of love--they would ever have been in love--they would ever have been in harmony with each other; but sin had harmony with each other; but sin had brought discord, and now their union could brought discord, and now their union could be maintained and harmony preserved only be maintained and harmony preserved only by by submission on the part of the one submission on the part of the one or the otheror the other. . AH 115AH 115

Woman in subjection to her Woman in subjection to her husbandhusband

Eve had been the first in transgression; and Eve had been the first in transgression; and she had fallen into temptation by separating she had fallen into temptation by separating from her companion, contrary to the divine from her companion, contrary to the divine direction. direction. It was by her solicitation that Adam sinned, It was by her solicitation that Adam sinned, and she was now and she was now placed in subjection to placed in subjection to her husbandher husband. Had the principles enjoined in . Had the principles enjoined in the law of God been cherished by the fallen the law of God been cherished by the fallen race, this sentence, though growing out of the race, this sentence, though growing out of the results of sin, would have proved a blessing to results of sin, would have proved a blessing to them; but man's abuse of the supremacy thus them; but man's abuse of the supremacy thus given him has too often rendered the lot of given him has too often rendered the lot of woman very bitter, and made her life a woman very bitter, and made her life a burden. AH 115burden. AH 115

Take up life duties - Take up life duties - cheerfullycheerfully

Eve had been perfectly happy by her Eve had been perfectly happy by her husband's side in her Eden home; but, like husband's side in her Eden home; but, like restless modern Evesrestless modern Eves, she was flattered , she was flattered with the hope of entering a higher sphere than with the hope of entering a higher sphere than that which God had assigned her. In that which God had assigned her. In attempting to rise above her original position, attempting to rise above her original position, she fell far below it. A similar result will be she fell far below it. A similar result will be reached by all who are unwilling to reached by all who are unwilling to take up take up cheerfully their life dutiescheerfully their life duties in accordance in accordance with God's plan. with God's plan.

AH 115AH 115

Husband and wifeHusband and wife

Eph 5:22 - 24Eph 5:22 - 24 Wives, Wives, submitsubmit yourselves yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Therefore Therefore as the church is subject as the church is subject unto Christunto Christ, so , so letlet the wives the wives bebe to their to their own husbands in own husbands in every thingevery thing. .

““Submit”Submit” = To be subordinate (to place = To be subordinate (to place in order or rank below something else), be in order or rank below something else), be under obedience tounder obedience to

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and Christ also loved the church, and gave gave himself for ithimself for it;…….;…….

Eph 5:28 - 29 So ought men to love their Eph 5:28 - 29 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. his wife loveth himself.

For no man ever yet hated his own For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth itnourisheth and cherisheth it, , even as the Lord the church: even as the Lord the church:

““Nourisheth” = to rear up to maturity, to Nourisheth” = to rear up to maturity, to cherish or traincherish or train

““Cherisheth” = to treat with tenderness Cherisheth” = to treat with tenderness and affection; to give warmth, ease or and affection; to give warmth, ease or comfort to.comfort to.

Eph 5:31 - 33Eph 5:31 - 33 For this cause shall a man For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one fleshone flesh. .

This is a great mystery: but I speak This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. concerning Christ and the church.

Nevertheless let every one of you in Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife and the wife seesee that she that she reverence reverence herher husbandhusband. .

““reverence” = Fear mingled with respect reverence” = Fear mingled with respect and esteem; admiration of something great and esteem; admiration of something great (with love and affection)(with love and affection)

Man is the priest of the Man is the priest of the homehome

To the man who is a husband and a To the man who is a husband and a father, I would say, Be sure that a pure, holy father, I would say, Be sure that a pure, holy atmosphere surrounds your soul. As atmosphere surrounds your soul. As priest priest and house-bandand house-band of your family, you are to of your family, you are to learn daily of Christ. Never, never are you to learn daily of Christ. Never, never are you to show a tyrannical spirit in the home. The show a tyrannical spirit in the home. The man who does this is working in partnership man who does this is working in partnership with Satanic agencies. Bring your will into with Satanic agencies. Bring your will into submission to the will of God. Do all in your submission to the will of God. Do all in your power to power to make the life of your wife make the life of your wife pleasant and happypleasant and happy. .

SW, January 19, 1904 SW, January 19, 1904

Houseband and teacherHouseband and teacher

The father is to be the houseband of the family. This The father is to be the houseband of the family. This is his position, and if he is a Christian, he will is his position, and if he is a Christian, he will maintain family government. In every respect maintain family government. In every respect his his authority is to be recognizedauthority is to be recognized. RH, March 13, 1894. RH, March 13, 1894

The husband is the houseband, the husband, the The husband is the houseband, the husband, the priest of the household, and the priest of the household, and the wife is the teacherwife is the teacher, , as she shall fill her place in the household, whatever as she shall fill her place in the household, whatever may be her employment. If she has children to nurse may be her employment. If she has children to nurse and take care of, let me tell you there is a lesson and take care of, let me tell you there is a lesson there, Oh such a lesson, that God wants there, Oh such a lesson, that God wants everyone to everyone to learnlearn. The wife, united with the husband in the fear . The wife, united with the husband in the fear of God, is to be a of God, is to be a strength and power in the strength and power in the churchchurch. God can make them thus. . God can make them thus.

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Appreciate each otherAppreciate each other

Let each Let each give love rather than give love rather than exact itexact it. Cultivate that which is noblest . Cultivate that which is noblest in yourselves, and be quick to recognize in yourselves, and be quick to recognize the the good qualitiesgood qualities in each other. The in each other. The consciousness of consciousness of being appreciatedbeing appreciated is is a wonderful stimulus and satisfaction. a wonderful stimulus and satisfaction. Sympathy and respect encourage the Sympathy and respect encourage the striving after excellence, and love itself striving after excellence, and love itself increases as it stimulates to nobler aims. increases as it stimulates to nobler aims. MH MH 361361

Do not try to compelDo not try to compel

Neither the husband nor the wife Neither the husband nor the wife should attempt to exercise over the other should attempt to exercise over the other an arbitrary controlan arbitrary control. Do . Do not try to not try to compel each othercompel each other to yield to your to yield to your wishes. You cannot do this and retain each wishes. You cannot do this and retain each other's love. Be kind, patient, and other's love. Be kind, patient, and forbearing, considerate, and courteous. By forbearing, considerate, and courteous. By the grace of God you can succeed in making the grace of God you can succeed in making each other happy, as in your marriage vow each other happy, as in your marriage vow you promised to do. MH 361you promised to do. MH 361

Stand an equal to her Stand an equal to her husbandhusband

Woman, if she wisely improves her time and Woman, if she wisely improves her time and her faculties, relying upon God for wisdom and her faculties, relying upon God for wisdom and strength, strength, may stand on an equality with her may stand on an equality with her husband as adviser, counselor, companion, husband as adviser, counselor, companion, and co-workerand co-worker, and yet lose none of her womanly , and yet lose none of her womanly grace or modesty…. Why should not women grace or modesty…. Why should not women cultivate the intellect? Why should they not answer cultivate the intellect? Why should they not answer the purpose of God in their existence? Why may the purpose of God in their existence? Why may they not understand their own powers, and realizing they not understand their own powers, and realizing that these powers are given of God, that these powers are given of God, strive to strive to make use of them to the fullest extent in make use of them to the fullest extent in doing good to others, in advancing the work doing good to others, in advancing the work of reform, of truth and real goodnessof reform, of truth and real goodness in the in the world? world? Ev 467Ev 467

Work for women to doWork for women to do

The Lord has a The Lord has a work for womenwork for women as well as as well as for men. They may take their places in His work at for men. They may take their places in His work at this crisis, and He will work through them. If they this crisis, and He will work through them. If they are imbued with a sense of their duty, and labor are imbued with a sense of their duty, and labor under the influence of the Holy Spirit, they will have under the influence of the Holy Spirit, they will have just the self-possession required for this time. The just the self-possession required for this time. The Saviour will Saviour will reflect upon these self-sacrificing reflect upon these self-sacrificing women the light of His countenancewomen the light of His countenance, and will , and will give them a power that exceeds that of mengive them a power that exceeds that of men.. They They can do in families a work that men cannot can do in families a work that men cannot dodo, a work that reaches the inner life. They can , a work that reaches the inner life. They can come close to the hearts of those whom men come close to the hearts of those whom men cannot reachcannot reach. Their labor is needed.. Their labor is needed.

Ev 464 - 5 Ev 464 - 5

Duties of woman = more Duties of woman = more sacredsacred

We have an earnest desire that We have an earnest desire that woman shall fill the position which God woman shall fill the position which God originally designed, as her husband's originally designed, as her husband's equal. We so much need mothers who equal. We so much need mothers who are mothers not merely in name, but in are mothers not merely in name, but in every sense that the word implies. We every sense that the word implies. We may safely say that the may safely say that the dignity and dignity and importance of woman's mission importance of woman's mission and distinctive duties are of a more and distinctive duties are of a more sacred and holy character than the sacred and holy character than the duties of manduties of man. .

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Work in your neighbourhoodWork in your neighbourhood

Women who have the cause of God at Women who have the cause of God at heart can do a good heart can do a good work in the districts work in the districts in which they residein which they reside. .

Ev 465Ev 465In the various branches of the work of In the various branches of the work of

God's cause, there is a wide field in which God's cause, there is a wide field in which our our sisters may do good servicesisters may do good service for the for the Master. Among the noble women who have Master. Among the noble women who have had the moral courage to decide in favor of had the moral courage to decide in favor of the truth for this time are many who have the truth for this time are many who have tact, perception, and good ability, and who tact, perception, and good ability, and who may make successful workers. The may make successful workers. The labors labors of such Christian women are needed.of such Christian women are needed.

Ev 466Ev 466

Women as Bible teachersWomen as Bible teachers

There are There are women who are women who are especially adapted for the work of especially adapted for the work of giving Bible readingsgiving Bible readings, and they are , and they are very successful in presenting the Word very successful in presenting the Word of God in its simplicity to others. They of God in its simplicity to others. They become a become a great blessinggreat blessing in reaching in reaching mothers and their daughters. This is a mothers and their daughters. This is a sacred work, and those engaged in it sacred work, and those engaged in it should receive encouragement.should receive encouragement.

Ev 469Ev 469

Exert an influence for goodExert an influence for good

Wonderful is the mission of the wives and Wonderful is the mission of the wives and mothers and the younger women workers. If they mothers and the younger women workers. If they will, they can will, they can exert an influence for goodexert an influence for good to all to all around them. By around them. By modesty in dress and modesty in dress and circumspect deportmentcircumspect deportment, they may bear witness , they may bear witness to the truth in its simplicity….. to the truth in its simplicity…..

A truly converted woman will exert a powerful A truly converted woman will exert a powerful transforming influence for good. transforming influence for good. Connected with Connected with her husband, she may aid him in his work, and her husband, she may aid him in his work, and become the means of encouragement and become the means of encouragement and blessing to himblessing to him. When the will and way are . When the will and way are brought into subjection to the Spirit of God, brought into subjection to the Spirit of God, there is there is no limit to the good that can be accomplishedno limit to the good that can be accomplished. .

Ev 467 - 8Ev 467 - 8

Housework is serving GodHousework is serving God

Those who do the Those who do the cooking and the other cooking and the other work of the homework of the home are as verily engaged in are as verily engaged in the the service of Godservice of God as are those engaged in as are those engaged in Bible work. And they are Bible work. And they are in greater need in greater need of sympathyof sympathy and compassion; for there is and compassion; for there is in spiritual lines of work that which keeps in spiritual lines of work that which keeps the spirits cheered, uplifted, and comforted. the spirits cheered, uplifted, and comforted. And remember, we are all servants. The one And remember, we are all servants. The one who does your housework is who does your housework is no less highly no less highly regarded by the Lordregarded by the Lord than the one whose than the one whose work is to give Bible readings. work is to give Bible readings. Ev 468 Ev 468

Mother’s workMother’s workThe king upon his throne has no The king upon his throne has no

higher work than has the motherhigher work than has the mother. The . The mother is queen of her household. She has mother is queen of her household. She has in her power the molding of her children's in her power the molding of her children's characters, that they may be fitted for the characters, that they may be fitted for the higher, immortal life. higher, immortal life. An angel could not An angel could not ask for a higher missionask for a higher mission; for in doing this ; for in doing this work she is doing service for God. Let her work she is doing service for God. Let her only realize the high character of her task, only realize the high character of her task, and it will inspire her with courage. Let her and it will inspire her with courage. Let her realize the worth of her work and put on the realize the worth of her work and put on the whole armor of God, that she may whole armor of God, that she may resist resist the temptation to conform to the the temptation to conform to the world's standardworld's standard. . Her work is for time Her work is for time and for eternityand for eternity. . AH 231 - 2AH 231 - 2

Take troubles to GodTake troubles to God

A third person is taken into the confidence of A third person is taken into the confidence of the wife, and her the wife, and her private family matters private family matters are laid open before the special friendare laid open before the special friend. . This is the This is the device of Satan to estrange device of Satan to estrange the hearts of the husband and wifethe hearts of the husband and wife. .

Oh, that this would cease! What a world Oh, that this would cease! What a world of trouble would be saved! Lock within your of trouble would be saved! Lock within your own hearts the knowledge of each other's own hearts the knowledge of each other's faults. faults. Tell your troubles alone to GodTell your troubles alone to God. He . He can give you right counsel and sure can give you right counsel and sure consolation which will be pure, having no consolation which will be pure, having no bitterness in it. AH 337 - 8bitterness in it. AH 337 - 8

Reading FictionReading Fiction

Fictitious reading has confused the Fictitious reading has confused the mindmind, and marriage is falsely colored. As , and marriage is falsely colored. As Christians we should Christians we should discarddiscard all this class of all this class of reading that creates so much unhappiness in reading that creates so much unhappiness in the marriage life. Persons do not realize their the marriage life. Persons do not realize their expectations, and nothing that the expectations, and nothing that the companion can do is pleasing. The one in companion can do is pleasing. The one in this dangerous position should center the this dangerous position should center the affections upon God, and drink of the water affections upon God, and drink of the water that Christ shall give, which will be as "a well that Christ shall give, which will be as "a well of water springing up into everlasting life." of water springing up into everlasting life."

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Impatience and faultfindingImpatience and faultfinding

Oh, I have been shown how he exults when Oh, I have been shown how he exults when we are overcome and the we are overcome and the spirit of impatience spirit of impatience and faultfinding is indulgedand faultfinding is indulged. He is in an . He is in an exultation of triumph, for he knows that this exultation of triumph, for he knows that this grieves the Spirit of God and separates us from grieves the Spirit of God and separates us from our Strength. our Strength. Our words must be faultless, Our words must be faultless, our spirit patient, and kind, forbearing, our spirit patient, and kind, forbearing, long-sufferinglong-suffering, and we manifesting by our , and we manifesting by our words and actions that we have learned of Jesus words and actions that we have learned of Jesus and are still learning in the school of Christ. and are still learning in the school of Christ.

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Criticism of othersCriticism of othersSin perpetuates itself. How cruel then Sin perpetuates itself. How cruel then

it is for those who claim to have a it is for those who claim to have a knowledge of God to show that they are knowledge of God to show that they are not doers of his word. not doers of his word. They indulge in They indulge in evil thinking, criticizing, and accusingevil thinking, criticizing, and accusing, , and in this way they misrepresent Christ's and in this way they misrepresent Christ's character. They are false witnesses, just as character. They are false witnesses, just as were the Jews. I pray that the vision of the were the Jews. I pray that the vision of the soul may be sanctified, that the sin of soul may be sanctified, that the sin of accusing and criticizing may be put away, accusing and criticizing may be put away, as a sin that as a sin that crucifies afresh the Son of crucifies afresh the Son of God, and puts him to an open God, and puts him to an open shameshame…… ……

………….The Holy Spirit must work in our .The Holy Spirit must work in our hearts. Let hearts. Let no false pride, no pharisaism, no false pride, no pharisaism, be cherishedbe cherished. Rather let us seek for the . Rather let us seek for the spirit of a little child. If we knew, if we only spirit of a little child. If we knew, if we only knew, how the Lord regards those who knew, how the Lord regards those who indulge so freely in indulge so freely in evil surmisingevil surmising, we , we would fear to manifest such, a spirit. These would fear to manifest such, a spirit. These surmisings are a repast from the enemy, a surmisings are a repast from the enemy, a banquet of his own preparing. Those who banquet of his own preparing. Those who give place to them have an experience in give place to them have an experience in accordance with them; for the mind is built accordance with them; for the mind is built up from the food given it. up from the food given it.

RH, Oct 17, 1899RH, Oct 17, 1899

Jovial talkingJovial talking

From the light which the Lord has given me, From the light which the Lord has given me, our our sisters should pursue a very different coursesisters should pursue a very different course. They . They should be should be more reserved, manifest less boldnessmore reserved, manifest less boldness, , and encourage in themselves "shamefacedness and and encourage in themselves "shamefacedness and sobriety." Both brethren and sisters indulge in too sobriety." Both brethren and sisters indulge in too much jovial talk when in each other's society. much jovial talk when in each other's society. Women Women professing godliness indulge in much jesting, professing godliness indulge in much jesting, joking, and laughingjoking, and laughing. This is unbecoming and . This is unbecoming and grieves the Spirit of God. These exhibitions reveal a grieves the Spirit of God. These exhibitions reveal a lack of true Christian refinement. They do not lack of true Christian refinement. They do not strengthen the soul in God, but bring great darkness; strengthen the soul in God, but bring great darkness; they drive away the pure, refined, heavenly angels they drive away the pure, refined, heavenly angels and bring those who engage in these wrongs down to and bring those who engage in these wrongs down to a low level. a low level. AH 332AH 332

Not looking at emotionsNot looking at emotions

I have indeed been halting under the I have indeed been halting under the shadow of the cross. It is not a common thing for shadow of the cross. It is not a common thing for me to be overpowered, and to suffer so much me to be overpowered, and to suffer so much depression of spiritdepression of spirit as I have suffered for the as I have suffered for the last few months. …. I would not teach that Jesus last few months. …. I would not teach that Jesus has risen from the tomb, and that he is ascended has risen from the tomb, and that he is ascended on high, and lives to make intercession for us on high, and lives to make intercession for us before the Father, unless I carry out my teaching before the Father, unless I carry out my teaching by practice, and believe in him for his salvation, by practice, and believe in him for his salvation, casting my helpless soul upon Jesus for grace, for casting my helpless soul upon Jesus for grace, for righteousness, peace, and love. righteousness, peace, and love. I must trust in I must trust in him irrespective of the changes of my him irrespective of the changes of my emotional atmosphereemotional atmosphere. . ST, July ST, July 25, 1895 25, 1895

Christ = happinessChrist = happiness

The presence of Christ alone can The presence of Christ alone can make men and women happymake men and women happy. All . All the common waters of life Christ can the common waters of life Christ can turn into the wine of heaven. The turn into the wine of heaven. The home then becomes as an Eden of home then becomes as an Eden of bliss; the family, a beautiful symbol of bliss; the family, a beautiful symbol of the family in heaven. the family in heaven.

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