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YOU CAN STOP YOU CAN STOP BULLYINGBULLYING
YOU CAN STOP YOU CAN STOP BULLYINGBULLYING
Presented by Presented by Family Voices of TennesseeFamily Voices of Tennessee
Adapted from U.S. Dept of Health and Human ServicesAdapted from U.S. Dept of Health and Human Services
Just 15 Minutes• Undivided attention can make
difference.• Promotes healthy child
development. • Prevents youth and school-based
violence. • They DO look up to you!• Other adults can step in.
What is Bullying?• Direct – seen and felt.• Indirect – deliberate exclusion,
name calling, rumors, etc.– Sometimes hard to identify and
solve.
• Boys • Girls
Imbalance of Power• Bullying is defined by a power
imbalance between the bully and the target (victim)
• Power = size, strength, verbal skills, popularity, or gender.
The Effects of Bullying• Increased absenteeism/drop out rate• Less safe, less satisfied• Can lead to child abuse/spouse
abuse• Criminal activity• Victims can grow socially insecure,
anxious, low self-esteem, depression, possible suicide.
Conversation Starters• What does "bullying" mean to
you? • Do you ever feel lonely at school
or left out of activities? How does that make you feel?
• Who do you sit with, what do you do, and what do you talk about?
Other Questions• Have you ever been scared to go
to school because you were afraid of being bullied?
• What ways have you tried to change it?
• Have kids ever bullied you by hitting or pushing you, or other things like that?
Is Your Child Being Bullied?
• Seems unwilling or afraid to go to school.
• Seems depressed or downhearted.• Chooses illogical routes to school.• Loss of interest in school.• Poor appetite, stomach aches.• Stealing money.
High Risk • Children with special health care
needs are at higher risk to be victims of bully’s AND higher risk to bully others.
• Children with obesity or weight issues are often bullied by their peers.
What Can You Do?• Parents and Schools should take
bullying seriously, investigate the facts and work together to find a healthy solution.
• Parents need to speak to the school immediately.
How to Help Your Child• Let them know it’s not their fault.• Discuss ways of responding to the bully.• Tell your child not to react, but to walk
away and get help if pursued.• Tell a trusted adult.• File criminal charges for assault or
injuries.
Don’t• Don’t tell your child to solve the
bullying themselves.• Don’t tell them to fight the bully.• Don’t blame either the victim or
the bully-investigate and consider all the facts.
Warning Signs of a Bully
• Seeks to dominate others.• Poor winner and poor loser.• Is excited by conflicts between others.• Pattern of impulsive and chronic hitting,
intimidating and aggressive behaviors.• Lacks empathy towards others.
What You Can Do• If you think your child may be bullying,
act quickly.– Let them know this is not acceptable.– Help your child learn alternative ways with
dealing with anger and frustration.– Help them understand the impact on their
victims.– Seek professional help if behavior continues.
Don’t be a Victim• Help your child learn good social
skills and a healthy self-confidence.
• Teach your child to speak out for his or her rights.
• Teach them to seek help if bullied.
Don’t be a Bully• Model non-violent behavior.• Let your child know violence will
not be tolerated.• Seek help from mental
health/school counselors to stop aggressive behaviors.
You are the Key• Remember to talk with your
children.• Only 15 minutes CAN make a
difference. • Remind them you are there to talk
or listen.• Be a good role model, they are
always watching.
Resources• www.samhsa.gov• www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org• School councilor• STAR program