Helen & Grace

黄维仁博士佳言录黄维仁博士佳言录Messages of Heart from Dr. Wei-Jen Messages of Heart from Dr. Wei-Jen

HuangHuang献给献给《《亲密之旅亲密之旅》》的天使们的天使们————

因为您们，使我们有机会学习、成长并开始全新的生活……

生命是一份来自上天的特殊礼物永远值得我们好好珍惜

Life is a precious gift from Heaven……worthy of tender loving

care

人最可贵的是—— 有一颗谦卑

愿意学习的心

Ranking high among the virtues-

is a humble and teachable heart

一颗受了伤，还愿意不断去学习、 不断去爱、不断寻求医治的心

是一颗最美的心

The most beautiful heart, is a heart that in spite of being hurt, still keep on learning, loving and growing.

爱就是彼此珍惜

To love is to Cherish Each Other

倾听就是爱，了解中有医治

Listening is Loving, There’s Healing in Empathy

只有当一个人感受到爱的时候他才会努力超越自己

去做发自内心的有持久性的改变

Only when a person feel loved, from his hearthe will seek the real, thorough, and permanent positive change.

当我们愿意去爱，去标明别人的善意和长处时

就看见了上帝慈爱的面容

When we are willing to love, to highlight other people’s good intention and efforts, we will see the smiling face of

the loving God.

我们可以让别人变成天使 也可以让别人变成恶魔

We have the power to bring out either the best

or the worst in others

爱是投其所好，而非——给己所要

To love to is give others what they need, but not to impose what I need onto

them.

当我们没有感受到爱时，并不代表别人没有试着爱我们;

When we don’t feel loved, do not draw the wrong conclusion

that others have not tried to love us

当我们觉得受伤时，并不等于 别人故意要伤害我们

When we feel hurt, it does not mean that others have done it on purpose

天下人间最难发展出的能力是

看事情的角度和观点 The most difficult ability to develop, is to perceive the world and people from

multiple angles and a loving heart.

了解冲突，寻求双赢

Understand the underlying cause of conflict, strife for win-win

resolution

学习成为不断标明别人长处和善意的

高手 Learning to become

an expert in highlighting other

people’s good intention,

virtues and strength

解决伤害和愤怒 最好的办法是——饶恕

The most effective way to heal our emotional wounds is ….. Forgiveness

为爱点燃一盏灯……

Light up a Lamp of Love

看透不点透……Perceive but do not expose

先解决心情 再解决事情

Problem discussion before problem

solving; Soothing Emotion before managing

Issues

学习为自己的幸福快乐

负责Learn to

take responsibility for our own happiness

自认倒霉，接受现实 自求多福，反败为胜

Acknowledge our fate and situation, but never give up in changing it for the good

学习用成人的眼光重新去检视

过去的一些事件和情绪Re-examine events in our

past, view them from the mature

perspective of an adult

伤痛 + 怪罪 = 四大杀手

Pain + Blame = 4 relationship killers

伤痛 - 怪罪 = 亲密关系

Pain - Blame = Intimae Relationship

一个人可以给别人最珍贵的礼物——是他内心深处真正的想法和感受

The most precious gift that a man can offerIs the honest sharing of his innermost thoughts and

feelings

让我们以尊重、鼓励、了解、珍惜、保密的

心态来领受Let’s receive it with a

empathic and cherishing heart;

Encourage and keep it confidential.

  一个真正高质量的亲密关系，需要经过误解、伤害、饶恕、修复

后才能建立起来Deep, Intimate Relationship

are Established after Misunderstanding, Pain,

Constant Restoration and Forgiveness.

为爱爱留一处空间

For the sake of LOVE, graciously give our loved ones some space

健康的爱健康的爱是——没有你我也可以活得很好

Healthy love is- I am fine even when you are not around me

有你我会更幸福

But with your presence, my joy is made complete

因为——爱能遮掩一切过错

Because Love covers all sins