Feelings in Recovery-G.Dittmar-8/5/14

© 2014 Entelechy Coaching, LLC

August 5, 2014

One Health

Before Recovery Go around feelings �  Impulsive �  Fearful �  Skeptical �  Angry �  Hurt �  Sad

In Recovery Move through feelings � Mindful �  Faithful �  Thoughtful �  Processing �  Expressing �  Loving

© 2014 Gwen Dittmar Consulting, Inc

�  Think of your most recent upset �  What was the event? What happened? �  How did you react? How did you respond? �  How did you feel inside of yourself? �  What was the outcome?

�  What would you have liked happen instead? �  How would you react? How would you respond? �  How would you feel inside of yourself? �  What would the outcome be?


“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.”

– Jim Morrison

�  Feelings are neither bad or good, fact or fiction. � When we sit and experience our feelings they no longer hold charge or a hold over us.

�  Recovery = a process of learning to move through versus go around our feelings


�  Which way did you choose to practice “being” with your feelings? �  Intentionality and attitude about feelings �  Free form writing �  Giving the feeling a voice �  Meditation and prayer �  Active meditation and prayer �  Drawing or mandalas �  Talking with a sponsor, coach or sober fellow

� What did you learn? Was one method easier/harder/more or less effective?


�  I am “upset” because…. � Most people try to change the …. (control) � We can not change the …. �  The only part we can truly control is the “upset” �  It is our “upset” to accept and love (surrender) “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have

built against it.” -‐ Rumi


Surrender Thanking the upset Loving the upset Healing the internals Resolving the upset Acceptance

Control Disliking the upset Denying the upset (Attempt) to control the externals Avoiding the upset Force


� Write down the most recent time you recall saying: I’m upset because ….

� What would be your normal reaction? Response? � What made you upset? �  Describe the upset? What does it have to say? �  Can you talk with the upset part the way you would to a child or pet that you love? (don’t give advice, don’t fix the problem for them, don’t cheerlead)

� What was that like for you?


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